About this episode
Getting back in the saddle? I love that for you. But here’s the truth: staying on track takes more than motivation. If you’ve been craving a fresh start but don't know where to start, this episode is for you. We’re breaking down 8 of the most common ways people sabotage their own progress—from relying too much on discipline to using self-hate as fuel. Whether you have a big dream or just want to get unstuck, you deserve to enter your next chapter with eyes wide open. Let’s talk about the philosophy and psychology of making a comeback stick. EPISODE OUTLINE 00:00 Intro 02:40 Eight ways to sabotage a comeback 03:22 1. Believing you're behind 06:19 2. Being apologetic about what you want 07:18 You hold yourself back when you move in silence 08:41 You're being judgmental when you assume people are judging you 10:28 3. Underestimating the subconscious mind 10:45 The neuroscience of manifestation 12:46 Self-deprecation is manifesting too 14:37 4. Focusing only on your how & not your why 14:47 Nietzsche's will to power 15:20 Chasing superficial whys 17:14 5. Underestimating the power of small changes 19:38 Results are a lagging measure of effort (James Clear) 21:30 6. Focusing on what you can't control 21:55 Amor Fati: loving your fate (Nietzsche) 23:22 PS: My book MAKE BELIEVE is out now 24:05 Stop feeling bad for yourself for not figuring it out sooner 25:58 7. Waiting until you're ready to start 26:30 Hiding in the planning phase 26:51 The confidence-competence loop 27:50 8. Using self-hate as fuel 29:56 Lightning round recap 30:56 Give yourself some credit EPISODE LINKS Michigan State Study on accountability Mind Magic by Dr. James Doty Study using fMRI showing impact of visualization on motor cortex The Gay Science by Friedrich Nietzsche MY LINKS • MAKE BELIEVE is out everywhere now • Get a signed copy of MAKE BELIEVE from Blue Willow Bookshop • Join me in Bali June 1-7! • Find me @thedailyvictorian on Instagram • Find me @thedailyvictorian on TikTok