About this episode
Admit it: you’re still thinking about that cringey thing you did 6 years ago. Maybe it was something you said. Something you did. Something that haunts you at 2 AM when your brain decides to rerun its most humiliating blooper reel. Today, we’re breaking down exactly how to move past an embarrassing moment in 5 steps. We’ll talk about why your brain refuses to let things go, how the spotlight effect makes you think people care way more than they actually do, and the five fastest ways to shake off the cringe and move on with your life. EPISODE OUTLINE 00:00 Intro 02:06 Preorder Make Believe! Come see me on tour! 02:44 Why do we feel embarrassment? 03:50 Embarrassment scale 03:57 Tier 1: slight cringe 05:07 Tier 2: mild cringe 07:07 Tier 3: proper humiliation 11:09 Tier 4: deep humiliation 13:29 Tier 5: existential humiliation 15:45 Jean Paul Sartre’s the gaze 17:50 The spotlight effect 18:44 Social media and the spotlight effect 19:30 5 tips for navigating embarrassing moments 19:3 6 Break - Book! Bali! Tour! 25:25 1. Remember the spotlight is not real 29:51 2. Call it out as it’s happening 32:49 3. Tell someone 34:27 4. Figure out the root 35:58 5. Own it and then move on 40:07 Challenge MY LINKS Preorder my poetry book MAKE BELIEVE from Blue Willow to get a free poem print and a personalized signed copy Preorder MAKE BELIEVE from Amazon, Target, Barnes & Noble, and more Let’s hang on tour!! Get the Believe Again yoga flow, guided meditation and mini-journal bundle free when you preorder MAKE BELIEVE! Join me in Bali June 1-7! Find me @thedailyvictorian on Instagram Find me @thedailyvictorian on TikTok EPISODE LINKS Spotlight Effect Study Spotlight Effect and Social Media Study Jean Paul Sartre’s Being and Nothingness