About this episode
The bad news is you’re always going to care what people think. The good news is it doesn’t have to control your life. In this episode, I walk through 9 ways to rethink your relationship with external validation. If you want to be done letting other people’s opinions steer your every move, this one’s for you. EPISODE OUTLINE 00:00 Intro 05:28 1. Caring what people think is natural 07:14 2. You can’t control how you feel, but you can control what you do 16:07 3. You should care what some people think 18:16 4. Not caring what people think ≠ not caring about people 19:45 5. Chasing approval always backfires eventually 26:21 6. You don’t know what people think 30:29 7. Other people are not thinking about you as much as it feels like they are 35:32 8. You care more about other people’s opinions when you don’t have your own 37:28 9. It’s okay to want to be with people who make you feel good 39:27 Lightning round recap 42:29 Challenge EPISODE LINKS • The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz • Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl • The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga • The Second Sex by Simone de Beauvoir • The Art of Living by Epictetus • Spotlight Effect Study • Social Rejection Triggers Physical Pain Brain Centers • Surgeon General's Report on the Health Impact of Loneliness MY LINKS • MAKE BELIEVE is out everywhere now • Get a signed copy of MAKE BELIEVE from Blue Willow Bookshop • Join the waitlist for future retreats! • Find me @thedailyvictorian on Instagram • Find me @thedailyvictorian on TikTok