How Early Messages About Sex Distort Intimacy in Marriage - with Carey (Part 1) | Ep. 142

In this honest and vulnerable two-part episode, Carey shares the hidden struggles she faced with intimacy throughout her 30-year marriage while raising seven children. At just nine years old, Carey was exposed to adult magazines that distorted her understanding of intimacy. By 13, she found herself in relationships where intimacy felt more like something expected of her than something she chose. Married at 21 while still finishing school, she quickly began to see sex and intimacy as a burden—an obligation she was expected to fulfill. Guilt weighed heavily on her for not wanting it, and resentment grew toward her husband’s repeated attempts to initiate. Eventually, Carey stopped touching him altogether, leading to mounting tension and emotional distance in their marriage. In her search for answers, Carey turned to countless “experts,” only to be met with confusion and misinformation that left her feeling even more broken and isolated. Meanwhile, her husband was left wondering if she truly loved him. But that wasn’t the end of their story. 🎧 Tune in now to hear Carey’s raw and relatable journey—and don’t miss next week’s episode, where she shares the turning point that changed everything. Sign up for Janna's brand new workshop on Jan. 15. Your Desire Blueprint: 3 Steps to a Sex Life You Actually Want (Even if That Means None) Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here. Learn about the Doing It Together program details, and join the waitlist for the Feb./Mar. 2026 round. Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.