The Power of Asking “What Do I Need?” - with Heather | Ep. 101

At 51, Heather is finally discovering what truly brings her pleasure in sexual experiences by asking herself, “What do I need?” Although she was once a curious and precocious sexual being, her desire diminished during marriage when sex became an expectation and duty. The traditional formula of what sex should be didn't work for her and depleted her natural libido, but she couldn’t articulate why. It wasn't until she and her husband participated in the Doing It Together program that she realized she had been missing the nuances of true intimacy and neglecting the acts that brought her real pleasure and enjoyment. Listen to how Heather learned to unfollow the "media sex formula" rules, give specific directions, set boundaries, and savor the wide range of possibilities in the buffet of the sexual experience. Sign up for Janna's brand new workshop on Jan. 15. Your Desire Blueprint: 3 Steps to a Sex Life You Actually Want (Even if That Means None) Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here. Learn about the Doing It Together program details, and join the waitlist for the Feb./Mar. 2026 round. Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.