Understanding the Pitfalls of Transactional Intimacy - with Tyler | Ep. 98

Tyler and his wife struggled with intimacy throughout their 11 years of marriage. After meeting at 16 and waiting until marriage four years later, they both expected that the sexual experience would bring joy and fun to their lives, but it did not. His wife was plagued by pain, and after having two children, the exhaustion and stress of their lives dimmed all expressions of genuine connection and intimacy. Tyler thought that doing more around the house would help, but this only turned the experience into a transaction, which felt inauthentic and forced. After many failed attempts to fix their problem, his wife found Janna’s podcast and realized they weren’t alone in their struggle. Tyler shares the difficulties they both faced unlearning a lifetime of inaccurate information and how they are rebuilding their connection today. Sign up for Janna's brand new workshop on Jan. 15. Your Desire Blueprint: 3 Steps to a Sex Life You Actually Want (Even if That Means None) Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here. Learn about the Doing It Together program details, and join the waitlist for the Feb./Mar. 2026 round. Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.