E168 - Alua Arthur: The Conversation About Death That Will Change How You Live

Death doula, attorney, and spiritual guide Alua Arthur joins us to explore how embracing mortality awakens us to life’s deepest meaning. Through her book Briefly Perfectly Human and her work helping people die with peace and purpose, Alua invites us to face what we fear most — not to prepare for dying, but to learn how to live fully. We explore the taboos around death, the regrets people hold at the end of life, and the powerful clarity that comes from asking what remains undone. 20% off Pique Life Tea: https://www.piquelife.com/knowthyself Andrés Book Recs: https://www.knowthyselfpodcast.com/book-list ___________ 00:00 Intro 04:20 What Is a Death Doula? 08:10 How Facing Death Changes How We Live 12:45 Why We Fear Death 17:15 Imagining Your Own Death 21:40 The Most Common Regrets of the Dying 26:05 What Remains Undone in Your Life? 28:18 Ad: Pique Life 30:10 Facing Mortality as a Spiritual Practice 34:50 The Art of Dying Well 39:25 The Beauty of Grief and Letting Go 43:10 How to Be Present With the Dying 47:30 Conversations About Death With Loved Ones 51:00 How Alua Found Her Calling 55:40 What Dying People Teach About Living Fully 1:00:15 Grief, Identity, and Rebirth 1:05:30 How to Support Someone Who’s Grieving 1:10:45 The Mystery of What Happens After Death 1:15:00 The “Glitter Wave” Theory of Consciousness 1:20:20 Reimagining Rituals Around Death 1:25:40 Living Authentically Before It’s Too Late 1:30:00 Conclusion ___________ Episode Resources: https://www.instagram.com/alualoveslife/ https://www.instagram.com/going_with_grace/ https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BSP6FVYR/ https://www.instagram.com/andreduqum/ https://www.instagram.com/knowthyself/ https://www.youtube.com/@knowthyselfpodcast https://www.knowthyselfpodcast.com