About this episode
In this heartfelt episode, Kelley invites us to redefine expansion. What if the quiet seasons in your life—the ones that feel like stillness or even failure—are actually seasons of rooting? Drawing wisdom from nature, Kelley shares that true bloom only comes when the roots are strong. With personal reflections, cultural critique, and deeply practical insights, this episode explores how Black women can opt out of performative growth and instead root into authenticity, softness, and sustainable joy. What You’ll Learn Why rooting is essential before blooming—and how it can be a form of powerful expansion How to recognize when you’re asking the wrong questions and reframe them for deeper alignment Three practical ways to build roots in your daily life: community, movement, and money Why performative success (aesthetic, financial, social) often leads to burnout How Kelley is embodying rooted expansion in her own life and creative work Key Takeaways and Timestamps [00:00:22 – 00:02:09] Rooting is unseen but essential — Just like in nature, real growth happens beneath the surface. True expansion starts with internal clarity, not constant visibility. [00:05:00 – 00:09:00] Ask deeper questions — Instead of chasing aesthetics or metrics, ask what your soul is truly craving: peace, visibility, joy, or ease. [00:20:00 – 00:28:00] Live, don’t perform — Whether it’s friendships, fitness, or finances, choose presence over perfection and connection over curation. [00:18:37 – 00:37:18] Hold contradictions with grace — You can love who you are and still want more. Expansion doesn't have to cost your well-being. Support the Show If this episode touched something in you, share it with a friend, text it to a sister, or post a screenshot to social and tag @blackgirlburnout. We’re not just building a podcast—we’re creating a movement. One rooted in peace, softness, and collective bloom. You don’t need to perform your way into bloom. You only need to root. CHECK OUT OUR PARTNERS: Happy Mammoth and use my code BGB for a great deal: www.happymammoth.com Revolve and use code BGB for a great deal: https://www.revolve.com/bgb STAY IN TOUCH If you’re looking for more ways to connect with the Black Girl Burnout community, we’ve got you covered: Follow us on Instagram and TikTok @blackgirlburnout — Each platform offers something different, so come vibe with us where it feels right for you. Join our Substack family! Think of it as a modern-day online magazine (Tumblr-coded for the millennial hearts). We share weekly reflections, tips, tools, and deeper insights into each podcast episode—plus personal notes from Kelley’s life. Become a paid Substack subscriber for just $8/month (about the cost of a fancy latte) and access exclusive content like digital tools, apps, and free resources that are valued far beyond that. Work with Kelley directly : Book a 90-minute Clarity Catalyst Coaching Session — a deep-dive roadmap session to bring clarity and strategy to your next life move (not therapy, just powerful support). If you’re in New York State , Kelley is also accepting short-term therapy clients with select insurance and private pay options. Sessions are designed to be focused and transformational within 90 days. Join the waitlist now. Our Sponsors: * Check out PharmaNutra and use my code BGB for a great deal: https://pharmanutra-us.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy