202. “She racked up $50K in debt — why should I trust her with money?”

Emma (39) and Dave (39) make $258,000 a year—but they’re stuck in a toxic money dynamic. She built a financial plan during maternity leave. He didn’t believe her. Now, they’re battling over trust, $50K in debt, and whether they can afford a $700K house. With conflicting money roles—she’s the anxious planner, he’s the passive skeptic—they can’t move forward. In this episode, Ramit breaks down their “chaser/avoider” dynamic, the emotional cost of skepticism, and how to finally create a shared vision. This episode is brought to you by: Stamps.com | Sign up at https://stamps.com/ramit for a special offer that includes a 4-week trial, plus free postage, and a free digital scale. Trust & Will | Protect what matters most in minutes at https://trustandwill.com/ramit and get 20% off plus free shipping. Fabric by Gerber Life | Join the thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply today in just minutes at https://meetfabric.com/ramit . LMNT | Right now, LMNT is offering 8 single serving packets FREE with any LMNT order. This is a great way to try all 8 flavors. Get yours at https://drinklmnt.com/RAMIT DeleteMe | If you want to get your personal information removed from the web, go to https://joindeleteme.com/ramit for 20% off. Links mentioned in this episode • Order my new book: Money for Couples Connect with Ramit • Get Money Coaching with Ramit • Download the Conscious Spending Plan • Listen to my book—now on Audible • Get my New York Times best-selling book • Get my no-numbers journal • Other episodes • Instagram • Twitter • YouTube If you and your partner have a money issue and you want my help, I occasionally select a couple to work with, free of charge. Apply for my help here .