December 19, 2025
Listener Favorite: "I'm almost 40 and still living paycheck to paycheck”
Money For Couples with Ramit SethiAbout this episode
Today, we’re revisiting one of our favorite Money For Couples episodes of the year. Update: Romy and Travis recently shared an update on YouTube about where they are now. You can watch it here . Romy and Travis’s story struck a chord with listeners because it shows what really happens when a couple is earning good money…but operating with completely different expectations, habits, and fears around money. This episode is a perfect example of how old patterns can quietly shape a relationship—and what it takes to break them. If you missed it the first time, or want a refresher, this is one of the most revealing conversations of the year. In this episode: • Why Travis believes he can always “go fishing” to make money • How their childhoods shaped their attitudes toward money • The emotional weight Romy carries as the only planner • The story behind Romy’s secret UK savings • Their unclear approach to buying property • How disorganized thinking affects everything from taxes to tipping • The risks of having no real emergency fund • Why Travis’s role as the “reassurer” holds them back • How Ramit helps them redefine generosity • The first steps toward rebuilding trust Chapters: 00:00 — “I tapped my card and it said insufficient funds” 09:23 — “I’m living the same financial life as my parents” 18:13 — Breaking down their numbers 38:14 — The weight of taking on the “man’s” role 52:48 — “I’ve been poor before—I’ll be poor again” 1:02:08 — Living on hope, not numbers 1:12:05 — “We’re doing this together” 1:28:56 — Where are they now? Romy & Travis Connect with Ramit • Get my new book, Money For Couples • Get Money Coaching with Ramit • Download the Conscious Spending Plan • Listen to my book—now on Audible • Get my New York Times best-selling book • Get my no-numbers journal • Other episodes • Instagram • Twitter • YouTube If you and your partner have a money issue and you want my help, I occasionally select a couple to work with, free of charge. Apply for my help here .