About this episode
"This is the video I wish I had when I started my dating journey". Ollie delves into his personal experiences dating in the religious or "frum" dating scene. This video is aimed primarily at those navigating this world, particularly if they did not grow up as an observant Jew. For Ollie, the religious dating process is far more sane and healthy than secular dating, but equally he feels there are some tips and insights that could hopefully help people on the religious dating journey. Join me on J-TV+ today at https://j-tv.plus I'm so incredibly grateful for everyone's support in helping me grow J-TV over the years - I never could have anticipated we would be able to reach so many viewers - and that's down to you! And I'm so excited for this next stage of the journey. I've put my heart and soul into J-TV+ and I really hope you can join me on this next stage of the J-TV journey. Join me on J-TV+ today at https://j-tv.plus 0:00 Intro 1:10 The video I wish I had when I started dating 4:10 Religious dating process makes more sense than secular dating 5:55 Topics I want to cover 6:48 Purpose and mindset when dating 8:37 Something bothers you and people say "grow up!" 10:00 What to look for 12:00 A shadchan's (matchmaker) involvement 19:45 Rejecting someone/when they reject you 23:08 Telling others about your dates 25:26 Never compromise 26:13 Knowing where they want to live before first date 26:46 Physical looks/pictures 32:33 The speed of dating and staying relaxed 37:44 The 'checklist'... 40:40 "Frum from birth" not wanting to date "baal teshuvas" 41:28 Sharing your deepest secrets 43:06 Managing social pressure to get married 48:36 Handling dating burnout 51:16 Getting put into boxes/labels 52:59 Your questions