Dismissive-Avoidant in Bed: Why They Pull Away (and What Actually Works)

Send us a text If they finish… then shut down, this episode is for you. Today we break down dismissive-avoidant attachment in the bedroom —why someone can crave the physical but avoid the intimate—and what actually works to make connection (and foreplay/aftercare) easier. I’m joined by Dr. Sam Zand , holistic psychiatrist, Chief Medical Officer at Better U, and founder of Anywhere Clinic. We cover: How dismissive-avoidant shows up in flirting, foreplay, sex, and aftercare Why intensity ≠ intimacy (and the “walls up after sex” moment) Common patterns: control kinks, porn/solo focus, skipping aftercare, substance-aided intimacy Nervous system basics : safety, arousal, orgasm, and freeze responses Tangible tools both partners can use tonight: eye contact, breath syncing, clear aftercare scripts, and “safe-to-connect” micro-habits 🎧 Prefer Video? Check out my Youtube channel https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannette. You can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/ My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannette My free spicy handle is @annettetalkssex Subscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390c Ask a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcast My substack: Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com . Experience the Pheromone Advantage at 15% off with my code LRT15 Use code LRT15 at Eyeoflove.com And you'll get 15% off pheromone powered perfumes, colognes, and more. Check out my Diaries on OF. Enjoy exclusive access to intimacy video how-tos, guided self-pleasure meditations, and more! https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/ Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/ Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with us We are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content: She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.com Cheers!