Breaking the Endless Argument Cycle With Your Teen (Without More Consequences)

PODCAST SHOW NOTES FORMAT Are you stuck in what feels like an emotional Groundhog Day with your teen—where the same arguments, defiance, and standoffs keep repeating? You’re not alone. In this episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam , I sit down with therapist and bestselling author Kati Morton to uncover why punishment-based parenting fails with teenagers and how to finally break these frustrating cycles. Kati explains that adolescence is about independence-seeking, not rebellion—and when parents try to control teens with consequences, they often fuel the very behaviors they want to stop. Instead, she offers science-backed strategies that shift the focus from control to influence, using curiosity and connection to build lasting respect and trust. From handling risky teen behaviors to creating space for authentic conversations, this episode gives you practical tools and a fresh perspective. If you’re tired of repeating the same exhausting battles, this conversation will help you hit reset and start building a calmer, more connected relationship with your teen. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why punishing your teen often makes behavior worse, not better The game-changing shift from control to influence How to stay calm and use “wise mind” during heated conflicts Simple ways to spark honest conversations without forcing it 🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌 RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Kati Morton’s upcoming book: Why Do I Keep Doing This? (Releases December 9) Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT): Emotion Mind vs. Wise Mind Skinner Box research on punishment effectiveness Parts work therapy for emotional responses CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Kati Morton 🌐 Website 📘 Facebook 📸 Instagram ▶️ YouTube 🎵 TikTok CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 Breaking the Emotional Groundhog Day Cycle 03:01 Understanding the Illusion of Control in Parenting 05:56 Navigating Independence and Communication with Teens 08:46 The Importance of Honesty and Vulnerability 11:44 Empathy and Understanding in Parenting Teens 14:50 Addressing Risky Behaviors in Teens 20:11 Understanding Risky Behaviors in Teens 21:27 The Ineffectiveness of Punishment 23:49 Curiosity Over Judgment 25:16 The Importance of Understanding Teen Behavior 27:09 Building Trust and Influence 29:21 The Role of Communication in Parenting 31:38 Repairing Relationships After Mistakes 38:40 The Power of Curiosity in Parenting ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #parentingteens #teenbehavior