#546 - GRIEVING MOM Writes Letters to Her Deceased Daughter—And Gets REAL RESPONSES! With Deborah Shouse

EVEN MORE about this episode! After losing her daughter Hilee to a tragic overdose, Deborah Shouse found solace through an unexpected connection—letters exchanged with her daughter's spirit. Encouraged by her grief therapist, Deborah began a profound correspondence that became a path to healing and deeper love. This journey inspired her to write Letters from the Ungrateful Dead , a title reflecting Hilee's self-awareness after her passing. In this episode, Deborah shares her story, offering hope to others dealing with loss and the complex emotions of grief. The conversation also explores the challenges of parenting a child struggling with addiction, where love and boundaries often clash. Deborah highlights the peace of knowing a loved one is finally at rest and the ongoing spiritual connection that endures beyond life. Her insights encourage releasing the need for logical answers and embracing a deeper understanding of love. We also dive into themes of spirituality, the afterlife, and reincarnation, as Deborah shares how her experiences have reshaped her outlook. Whether seeking comfort, guidance, or a deeper connection to loved ones who have passed, this episode offers a compassionate exploration of the resilience and transformation of the human spirit. Guest Biography: Deborah Shouse is a writer, editor, laughter yoga facilitator, and dementia advocate known for her diverse career and personal resilience. From her early start as a child writing stories about princesses, she worked various jobs while consistently pursuing her passion for writing. Her work has been featured in prominent publications like The Washington Post , Reader’s Digest , and The Kansas City Star , as well as numerous Chicken Soup for the Soul anthologies. Inspired by her mother’s journey with dementia, Deborah authored Love in the Land of Dementia and Connecting in the Land of Dementia , focusing on creative activities and hope for caregivers. She and her partner, Ron Zoglin, traveled internationally, sharing these stories with others. Her life took a devastating turn when her older daughter died of a meth and fentanyl overdose. After months of being unable to write, Deborah channeled her grief into her latest book, Letters from the Ungrateful Dead , which details her unexpected correspondence with her daughter’s spirit. This book reflects her healing journey and enduring desire to remain connected with her daughter. Episode Chapters: (0:00:01) - Letters From the Ungrateful Dead (0:15:45) - Navigating Grief and Communication With Spirit (0:24:42) - Exploring Wisdom Beyond Human Relationships (0:34:59) - Letting Go (0:48:58) - Communication With the Spirit World (0:58:40) - Channeling Wisdom Through Grief and Connection (1:08:17) - Exploring Life, Death, and Spirituality Please join Julie next week with your question. Thursdays at 8pm ET, 7pm CT, 5pm PT. https://askjulieryanshow.com And, please leave a five-star review and subscribe so you can hear all the new episodes. Sponsors & Recommendations Disclaimer: This show is for informational purposes only. It is not intended to be medical, psychological, financial or legal advice. Please contact a licensed professional. The Ask Julie Ryan show, Julie Ryan, and all parties involved in producing, recording and distributing it assume no responsibility for listener’s actions based on any information heard on this or any Ask Julie Ryan shows or podcasts. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .