About this episode
In this powerful and paradigm-shifting conversation, Darin Olien sits down with Dr. Mindy Pelz to dismantle everything we've been told about menopause, hormones, aging, and women's power. This is not a conversation about "fixing" women — it's about understanding a profound neurological, biological, and evolutionary transition that has been misunderstood, pathologized, and silenced for decades. Together, they explore why menopause is not the end of vitality, but the beginning of leadership, clarity, and sovereignty — and why reclaiming this transition could fundamentally reshape families, culture, and the future of women's health. What You'll Learn (with Full Timecodes) 00:00:00 – Welcome to SuperLife: Why this episode matters for everyone, not just women 00:01:05 – The hidden cost of modern living: Plastics, endocrine disruption, and invisible hormonal stress 00:02:47 – Introducing Dr. Mindy Pelz: Why this conversation goes deeper than anything online 00:03:17 – Why women were excluded from medical research for decades 00:05:26 – The shocking pattern Dr. Pelz saw in women in their 40s: When life looks perfect but feels unbearable 00:06:41 – The suicide and divorce statistics no one talks about 00:07:27 – Why menopause exists at all: The evolutionary mystery 00:08:55 – The Grandmother Hypothesis: Why post-menopausal women kept humanity alive 00:10:08 – The brain shift that makes women stop people-pleasing 00:11:31 – Aging, fear, and the cultural erasure of women's wisdom 00:13:10 – The female brain before vs. after menopause 00:15:13 – Darin's reflection on his mother and invisible female labor 00:16:06 – Why community, safety, and oxytocin matter more than willpower 00:18:00 – Carol Gilligan's research: When girls stop knowing what they want 00:19:32 – Menopause as an awakening — not a breakdown 00:21:24 – Why men must be part of this conversation 00:22:26 – Leadership, aging, and reclaiming relevance 00:24:18 – Family dynamics when identity shifts 00:25:33 – The problem with outsourcing menopause to hormone therapy alone 00:27:00 – How to communicate needs without blame or collapse 00:30:07 – Metabolic health, insulin resistance, and early menopause 00:31:16 – The one blood marker every woman over 40 must track (HbA1c) 00:34:45 – The Hormonal Hierarchy explained: Cortisol, insulin, sex hormones, oxytocin 00:37:44 – Menopause as a cultural rite of passage we never created 00:39:31 – Dementia, Alzheimer's, and the glucose-starved brain 00:40:23 – Why fasting is neuroprotective for women 00:42:35 – How fasting helps menopausal belly weight 00:44:36 – Why shame keeps women disconnected from their power 00:45:34 – Why puberty and menopause are happening earlier 00:46:21 – Big Pharma, fear narratives, and the HRT conversation 00:48:35 – Empowerment vs. outsourcing health 00:50:11 – Why society fears powerful, post-menopausal women 00:52:11 – Dr. Pelz's personal breaking point and nervous system reset 00:55:33 – Redefining work, marriage, and self-permission 00:58:37 – Resentment as a diagnostic tool 01:01:15 – Neuroplasticity, obstacles, and the hero's journey 01:03:16 – Why going through discomfort rewires the brain 01:04:23 – Integration: Menopause as rebirth, leadership, and collective healing 01:12:25 – Closing reflections and final takeaways Thank You to Our Sponsors: Therasage: Go to www.therasage.com and use code DARIN at checkout for 15% off Bite Toothpaste: Go to trybite.com/DARIN20 or use code DARIN20 for 20% off your first order Caldera Lab: Experience the clinically proven benefits of Caldera Lab's clean skincare regimen and enjoy 20% off your order by visiting calderalab.com/darin and using code DARIN at checkout. Join the SuperLife Community Get Darin's deeper wellness breakdowns — beyond social media restrictions: Weekly voice notes Ingredient deep dives Wellness challenges Energy + consciousness tools Community accountability Extended episodes Join for $7.49/month → https://patreon.com/darinolien Find More From Dr. Mindy Pelz: Website: drmindypelz.com Instagram: @dr.mindypelz Follow her YouTube Channel Podcast: The Resetter Podcast Order her new book: Age Like a Girl Find More from Darin Olien: Instagram: @darinolien Podcast: SuperLife Website: https://superlife.com Book: Fatal Conveniences Key Takeaway: Menopause isn't a failure of the female body — it's the moment a woman's brain rewires for truth, leadership, and independence. When we stop trying to fix women and start understanding this transition, we don't just heal individuals — we change families, cultures, and the future.