September 19, 2023
How Can a Porn/Sex Addict in Recovery, most effectively project His Authenticity and Higher Self?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSEAbout this episode
In Episode 194, Mark and Steve respond to what may be the most brief situation and question ever submitted to PBSE. It comes from a sex addict trying to reconcile with his partner. Here's his submission— " How can I reconcile my infidelity and my care for women’s rights? My wife says that I’m lying to myself, but I feel like I do care about #metoo. Like, wtf???" In this episode, Mark and Steve get raw and real about HOW a porn/sex addict in recovery can most effectively project his authenticity and higher self to his partner. First, Mark and Steve talk about "obstacles"— Obstacles: - Lack of trust - Lack of empathy - Caught in victim mode - Lack of accountability for the past or future commitments - Unwillingness to collaborate - Lack of shame resiliency - Ego Defense Mechanisms (Pride, stubbornness, machismo, ego) - Incorrect paradigms surrounding sexuality, connection, etc. - Addict/Survival Resistance mentality Then they talk about the "solutions"— Solutions: - Actively seeking and developing trust-building experiences - An openness to other paradigms and ways of doing things (input from a spouse, therapist, group members, friends, etc) - Practicing and growing in active account-ability and response-ability - Developing vulnerability and mindfulness - Practicing & developing self-worth and confidence - Sobriety - Consistent follow-through and change in working to fix cultural and cognitive distortions regarding sexuality, connection, etc Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program—"Dare to Connect!" You have live access to Mark and Steve in 3 one-hour sessions every week—addicts, spouses and couples! And live support groups on weekends, facilitated by Mark and Steve! To try a free, 2-week trial, visit— daretoconnectnow.com Find out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension Counseling Learn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling Services