004 Dr. Shefali Tsabary - Awake-ish

00:56 – Introducing today’s guest, Dr. Shefali Tsabary 05:35 – Conscious parenting, defined 08:18 – Goals of conscious parenting 11:22 – Dr. Stephanie opens up about having expectations of her son 13:29 – Framing expectations for our children 16:11 – Differentiating between child-centric and parent-centric parenting 18:22 – Parenting myths discussed in Dr. Shefali’s book, The Awakened Parent 19:58 – Why success has become the primary barometer for childrearing 23:14 – The danger of potential 25:26 – The myth of ‘good’ children and ‘bad’ children 28:50 – Learnings Dr. Stephanie applied from Dr. Shefali’s book 30:28 – Dr. Shefali provides practical tools parents can utilize daily 31:47 – The myth that good parents are naturals 35:11 – Breaking free of parental guilt 36:40 – The myth that a good parent is a loving one 39:36 – Dr. Stephanie recalls a vulnerable moment from her childhood 42:18 – The myth that parenting is about raising a happy child 46:10 – The myth that parents need to be in control 48:46 – Tools parents can use to become more conscious 52:47 – How to navigate two differing parental philosophies 54:14 – Dr. Shefali gives advice to parents struggling with raising children with special needs 55:54 – The importance of accepting ourselves as imperfect beings 58:16 – Dr. Shefali promotes her annual event, Evolve 59:50 – Where listeners can follow Dr. Stephanie and subscribe to her newsletter TWEETABLE QUOTES “The conscious parenting understands that the traditional way they’ve been parenting until now is full of holes and mythologies that need to be debunked.” (05:45) “In many ways our children are more evolved because they allow themselves to be unhampered by culture. They’re very open about their feelings. They’re not yet jaded and critical like we can be.” (11:03) “I think keep it to day-to-day expectations and the rest will kind of take care of itself. If they’re [your children] meant to be a scientist, they’re going to be a scientist. If they’re meant to be an artist, they’re going to be an artist. Don’t dictate their future.” (15:52) “Success has become the goal of childhood. Not play, not exploration, not nothingness, not boredom, not creativity, but success.” (19:58) “Our children are not here to live our lives. And they’re not here to fulfill our destinies. They’re here to become their own beings.” (22:46) “There’s so much to learn. And, really, parenting should just be learning. We don’t know these children that come to us.” (32:16) “The journey is not outward, it’s inward. You have to go inward in order to make this thing call parenting work.” (34:59) “Love is the most active thing you can feel. And it really involves no judgement, no approval, no conditions, no transactions. It’s really love for the other person’s essence no matter how they make you feel.” (37:06) “That’s the beautiful part of life. If life was all happy, there would be no nuance, there would be no adventure, there would be no complexity, and there would be no growth.” (43:27) “Meditation has been the single most profound tool in my life, so much so that I am more connected inward than outward.” (51:57) “We can’t be everything to all people and all things and all images of ourselves as women.” (54:44) “Mothering just takes the life out of us, doesn’t it? And I think that we are ashamed to talk about just how draining it is because we have this mantle of perfection over our heads.” (55:31) LINKS MENTIONED Better! Website Private Facebook Community for Better! Dr. Stephanie’s Website Dr. Stephanie’s Twitter – @dr_stephanie Dr. Stephanie’s Instagram – @dr.stephanie.estima Dr. Shefali’s Instagram – @drshefalimexico Dr. Shefali’s Twitter – @DrShefali Dr. Shefali’s Facebook Dr. Shefali’s Website Link to Dr. Shefali’s Evolve Event BOOKS MENTIONED Dr. Shefali’s Book – The Awakened Family: How to Raise Empowered, Resilient, and Conscious Children The Conscious Parent ENJOYING THE SHOW, READY FOR MORE? Please Subscribe to Better! With Dr. Stephanie Join our Private Facebook Community for Better! Rate and Review: Show your support and help spread the word by writing a review, along with a 5-star rating on Apple Podcasts: https://bettershow.co/apple 🎙️🎙️🎙️ Podcast production and marketing provided by FullCast Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.