Can You Thrive in Crisis? Build Your Mental Grit with Dr. Sue Varma

Dr. Sue Varma, board-certified psychiatrist or psychiatrist and Author of Practical Optimism, joins Dr. Stephanie in this episode and together, they explore practical strategies for bolstering mental fortitude, navigating emotions, and reclaiming control over one's time and mental space. Drawing from Dr. Varma's extensive experience, including her groundbreaking work at the World Trade Center Mental Health Program, they discuss techniques to combat overwhelm, embrace the Joy of Missing Out (JOMO), and cultivate meaningful connections through friendship. Whether you're seeking tools to regulate emotions, alleviate stress, or simply enhance your well-being, this episode promises invaluable insights for all. Tune in and embark on a journey toward resilience, empowerment, and practical optimism. Episode Overview: 0:00 Intro/Teaser 1:15 Stress and Resilience 3:18 Practical Optimism: A Blend of Eastern and Western Philosophy 6:20 Validating the Human Experience 11:27 Medication and Calming Techniques for Inflammation 19:35 The Power of Observing Emotional "Tells" 27:08 Creating Distance from Negative Thoughts Through Mindful Observation 35:15 Reframing Cognitive Strategies for Self-Reflection 40:25 Finding Pleasure in Slowing Down and Appreciating the Senses 43:54 Slowing Down and Savoring the Present Moment 48:22 The Complexity of Emotions and Communication 50:30 The Therapeutic Power of Crying and Communication 54:20 Conflict Resolution: Resolving Conflicts Like Adults 58:03 Example of a Couple's Damaging Behavior in a Three-Legged Race 1:01:07 Communication Differences Between Men and Women 1:04:14 The Power of Feeling Supported and the Danger of Schadenfreude 1:09:54 The Importance of Relying on Others and Offering Help 1:13:28 The Importance of Choices, Work, and Sacrifices 1:20:12 Practical Optimism: The Art, Science, and Practice of Well-being Bio: Dr. Sue Varma is a board-certified psychiatrist who was the first medical director and attending psychiatrist at the World Trade Center Mental Health Program. She is also the go-to for all of the national morning shows on various topics related to mental health. Her first book examines how some people survive, even thrive, despite profound challenge, and how we can all optimize the things we have control over, while buffering ourselves from stress. Website: https://www.doctorsuevarma.com/ Practical Optimism book: https://www.doctorsuevarma.com/book/ Resources mentioned: It’s Not About the Nail - https://youtu.be/-4EDhdAHrOg?si=9zOcR3GR4E-9Ws5c We are grateful to our sponsors: COLDTURE Coming soon… BON CHARGE I am doubling down on this year for my best skin ever. The Bon Charge Red Light Face Mask helps with glowing, younger, firmer-looking skin with minimal effort or time AND without really changing your usual day or night routine. Head over to https://bonharge.com/better and use the discount code BETTER at checkout to get 15% off your entire cart. TIMELINE NUTRITION I'm in my mid-40s, and I've never felt more energized. One of the products I use to maximize this energy and help my muscles recover is Mitopure by Timeline. To feel your best, go to https://timelinenutrition.com/better and use code BETTER to get 10% off your order. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.