Beauty and the Gi: Gripping Conversations about Jiu-Jitsu and Life

2d ago

We’re unwrapping our Jiu-Jitsu year together, looking beyond goals and numbers, and exploring what it means to honor your capacity and find joy in the journey. This episode helps you recognize wins you might have overlooked and carry forward the pieces that fuel your love for the sport. If you’ve ever questioned whether you’re actually improving, wrestled with self-doubt after a rough roll, or wondered what “success” in BJJ looks like for you, this episode is your invitation to reflect—unconventionally. We share the real highlights (and lowlights) of our year on the mat. You’ll hear stories about capacity, boundaries, health struggles, and Jen’s new favorite metric to track. By the end of this episode, you’ll walk away with fresh self-awareness, permission to celebrate more than just the obvious victories, and a new lens for reflecting on your own Jiu-Jitsu journey. This isn’t a “goal-setting” episode and it’s definitely not about pushing harder or feeling guilty for what you didn’t achieve. It’s about taking stock, honoring where you’re at, and discovering what really lights you up—even on the messy days. Highlight Reel (00:00) Why Unwrapping Your Jiu Jitsu Year is more than promotions and competitions (01:26) Is Jiu Jitsu Progress Really Linear? Reflecting on Subtle Wins (03:40) Jen’s New Favorite Metric to Track (06:20) Honoring Your Capacity: How to Set Boundaries on the Mat (08:34) How Health and Real Life Impact Your Training (10:51) Using the Pareto Principle to Focus Your Jiu Jitsu Growth (13:13) What Changes After Getting Your Purple Belt? (15:37) Podcast Wrapped: Listener Wins, Top Episodes, and Global Reach Mentioned in This Episode Staying Solo Podcast https://bsfreebusiness.com/real-metric-of-success/ If you love the podcast, share it with a friend! You can also leave us a 5-star rating in Spotify or Apple Podcasts . 🎧 Listen on Your Favorite App Spotify Apple Podcasts Audible Episodes.fm YouTube 🎯 New to the Podcast? Start Here Start Here Spotify Playlist Start Here on Our Website 🥋 Learn More About Roll Model Grappling Camp rollmodelswanted.com 📱 Connect with Jen & AJ on Social Media Instagram – @beautyandthegipodcast Jen: @brassybroadjen on Instagram | @brassybroadjen on TikTok AJ: @ajclingerman on Instagram | @roll_model on TikTok Roll Model Grappling: @rollmodelgrappling on Instagram 🎶 Production Recording, theme music, editing, and production by Jen at The Brassy Broadcasting Company ⚠️ Disclaimer The Beauty and the Gi podcast is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. It is not a substitute for professional medical, mental health, or coaching advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Please consult your healthcare provider for any condition.

Dec 4

Have you ever wondered what really keeps women coming back to the mats—even after tough days, rough matches, or feeling stuck? We believe that “a rising tide lifts all ships.” Small acts of support, encouragement, and connection transform not just your game, but everyone around you. No matter your belt color or whether you step on the podium, this episode is about finding purpose and fulfillment by building up others as you grow. Do you know how powerful your presence, support, and effort can be in Jiu-Jitsu, both inside and outside the gym? We’ll share real stories from tournaments, training, and community life, and give you practical ways to champion the women around you, celebrate their wins, and show up when it really counts (even when you’re not feeling 100% yourself). By the end, you’ll feel inspired to take your part in the rising tide, knowing that growing together means everyone wins. Let’s raise the tide together. The Highlight Reel (00:00) What does it mean to be part of the Rising Tide in Jiu-Jitsu? (01:05) Inspiring stories from women who step up and compete for the community (03:15) Why supporting women’s brackets at tournaments really makes a difference (05:24) How to support your teammates when you aren’t competing and they are (08:13) How sponsoring teammates (with gis, classes, or camp fees) can change a life (09:50) The “How to Beat So-and-So” class: leveling up everyone, including yourself (11:57) Welcoming new people and using social media to build your gym’s community (13:00) Easy things you can do today to rasie the tide (15:07) The magic of inviting someone to try their first Jiu Jitsu class (16:48) Why inviting others to camp reignites the spark for you AND your team (17:46) On and off the mat tips: tiny habits for personal and collective growth Register for Roll Model Camp at Hero BJJ in Costa Rica https://herobjj.com/retreats/roll/ If you love the podcast, share it with a friend! You can also leave us a 5-star rating in Spotify or Apple Podcasts . 🎧 Listen on Your Favorite App Spotify Apple Podcasts Audible Episodes.fm YouTube 🎯 New to the Podcast? Start Here Start Here Spotify Playlist Start Here on Our Website 🥋 Learn More About Roll Model Grappling Camp rollmodelswanted.com 📱 Connect with Jen & AJ on Social Media Instagram – @beautyandthegipodcast Jen: @brassybroadjen on Instagram | @brassybroadjen on TikTok AJ: @ajclingerman on Instagram | @roll_model on TikTok Roll Model Grappling: @rollmodelgrappling on Instagram 🎶 Production Recording, theme music, editing, and production by Jen at The Brassy Broadcasting Company ⚠️ Disclaimer The Beauty and the Gi podcast is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. It is not a substitute for professional medical, mental health, or coaching advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Please consult your healthcare provider for any condition.

Nov 20

Are you ready to get your mat bestie the most epic Jiu-Jitsu holiday gift—or finally land on something YOU secretly wish would show up under the tree? If you’ve ever scrolled endless gear sites or wondered what your teammates actually want (besides another gi…), this episode breaks down the real, practical, and delightfully quirky gifts that’ll light up any grappler’s holiday—and why thoughtful presents mean more in our community than you think. In this special Holiday Gift Guide episode, we open up about what makes gifts matter (even when training feels “meh”), and share some of the best stocking stuffers and big-ticket camp ideas. By the end, you’ll have an easy list for gift-giving, be ready for those gym holiday sales, and know what helps teammates feel supported and cheered on as they chase their goals. The Highlight Reel (00:00) Jiu Jitsu Holiday Excitement (02:14) Real-Life Grappler Gift Stories: What Actually Gets Used & Loved (03:59) The Ultimate Stocking Stuffers for Grapplers (07:03) Gym Bags and Hygiene Musts (09:17) Jiu-Jitsu Stickers, Notebooks, and Artistic Gifts for the Jiu-Jitsu Soul (12:00) Jiu-Jitsu Apparel Picks: Rash Guards, Spats, and Singlets (13:47) Sleigh Day Sales & How to Score Jiu-Jitsu Gear Discounts (14:10) Gifting Camp Experiences: New Holiday Packages & Certificate Details (15:25) Jiu-Jitsu Performance Journals: Setting Up for Jiu-Jitsu Success (17:32) How to Guide Gift Buyers (and Your Loved Ones) to Exactly What You Want (18:32) Upcoming Events Roll Model Grappling Events This episode is your inside guide to gifts that lift you up, keep you rolling, and inspire your Jiu-Jitsu journey all year long. If you love the podcast, share it with a friend! You can also leave us a 5-star rating in Spotify or Apple Podcasts . 🎧 Listen on Your Favorite App Spotify Apple Podcasts Audible Episodes.fm YouTube 🎯 New to the Podcast? Start Here Start Here Spotify Playlist Start Here on Our Website 🥋 Learn More About Roll Model Grappling Camp rollmodelswanted.com 📱 Connect with Jen & AJ on Social Media Instagram – @beautyandthegipodcast Jen: @brassybroadjen on Instagram | @brassybroadjen on TikTok AJ: @ajclingerman on Instagram | @roll_model on TikTok Roll Model Grappling: @rollmodelgrappling on Instagram 🎶 Production Recording, theme music, editing, and production by Jen at The Brassy Broadcasting Company ⚠️ Disclaimer The Beauty and the Gi podcast is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. It is not a substitute for professional medical, mental health, or coaching advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Please consult your healthcare provider for any health questions and advice before taking supplements.

Nov 6

What happens when a brand-new face walks into your Jiu-Jitsu class? Do you feel welcoming, nervous, or excited like a shark that smells fear and fresh meat? Whether you’re the seasoned black belt, a relatively new white belt, or somewhere in between, how you welcome a newcomer can shape their entire Jiu-Jitsu journey. Or, you might unknowingly end it. In this episode, we’re sharing the moments where your smallest gestures can change someone’s story…and yours. Every time someone new steps on the mats, it’s an opportunity for growth—yours and theirs. We dig into why the way you welcome new students matters more than you think, and how the health of your gym depends on rising together to create an inviting and welcoming culture. You’ll get actionable dos and don’ts straight from our own growth experiment, plus ideas for making anyone feel at home, even if you’re an introvert (head nods count, promise!). By the end of this episode, you’ll know exactly how to bring warmth and positivity to every class, build your training pool, and create the kind of environment people want to come back to. Here’s the thing —it’s not all up to your coach. You and your teammates play a huge role in creating a gym culture that grows your team and brings people back for more. If you’re a coach, you’ll want to listen to this episode and share it with your students. Chapter Highlights (00:00) How to welcome new people when they walk into Jiu-Jitsu class (03:08) How your behavior changes the experience for new students (04:15) Simple ways to help beginners feel comfortable on the mats (05:44) How to make rolling safe and less overwhelming for first-timers (07:13) Finding the balance between being friendly and teaching technique (08:49) Why the coach needs to understand someone’s “why” for starting Jiu-Jitsu (11:03) What not to do with a new person (14:38) How to frame Jiu-Jitsu’s adaptability for new students (17:45) Should you share Jiu-Jitsu horror stories with the new girl? (22:05) Growing gym culture—why new students make you a better practitioner We’re here to help you be the reason someone comes back for their second class. If you love the podcast, share it with a friend! You can also leave us a 5-star rating in Spotify or Apple Podcasts . 🎧 Listen on Your Favorite App Spotify Apple Podcasts Audible Episodes.fm YouTube 🎯 New to the Podcast? Start Here Start Here Spotify Playlist Start Here on Our Website 🥋 Learn More About Roll Model Grappling Camp rollmodelswanted.com 📱 Connect with Jen & AJ on Social Media Instagram – @beautyandthegipodcast Jen: @brassybroadjen on Instagram | @brassybroadjen on TikTok AJ: @ajclingerman on Instagram | @roll_model on TikTok Roll Model Grappling: @rollmodelgrappling on Instagram 🎶 Production Recording, theme music, editing, and production by Jen at The Brassy Broadcasting Company ⚠️ Disclaimer The Beauty and the Gi podcast is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. It is not a substitute for professional medical, mental health, or coaching advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Please consult your healthcare provider for any condition.

Oct 23

Do you ever feel like no matter how hard you train, you’re never quite “enough?” There’s a fine line between pushing to be your best and letting the pressure to be “excellent” suck the joy right out of Jiu-Jitsu. This week, we’re grappling with what excellence actually means, why perfection is a trap, and how you can make progress) no matter how much time you’ve got on the mat. If you find yourself replaying mistakes on your drive home or wondering whether you’re improving fast enough, this episode is for you. We share stories about our own struggles with expectations, how to spot real progress, and what happens when you let go of perfection and focus on getting a little better every day. By the end of this episode, you’ll have new ways to measure success (even when class feels tough), tips for enjoying the journey, and a fresh perspective on what really matters—both on and off the mat. This is about finding what lights you up and building a practice that makes you proud. Highlights (00:00) How would you define excellence in Jiu-Jitsu? (01:25) How your attitude, expectations, and coachability shape every class (03:11) The battle: Perfection vs. Progress in your Jiu Jitsu journey (05:47) Tiny wins count: Tracking progress no matter what (09:02) How to keep moving forward—even when you can only train a little (11:02) Wrestling with slow Jiu-Jitsu progress and plateaus (12:49) Why journaling and video can totally change your perspective on your Jiu-Jitsu (16:29) Creating a culture of growth (not perfection) in your gym (18:34) Making progress on and off the mat (20:05) Our Jiu-Jitsu community challenge If you love the podcast, share it with a friend! You can also leave us a 5-star rating in Spotify or Apple Podcasts . 🎧 Listen on Your Favorite App Spotify Apple Podcasts Audible Episodes.fm YouTube 🎯 New to the Podcast? Start Here Start Here Spotify Playlist Start Here on Our Website 🥋 Learn More About Roll Model Grappling Camp rollmodelswanted.com 📱 Connect with Jen & AJ on Social Media Instagram – @beautyandthegipodcast Jen: @brassybroadjen on Instagram | @brassybroadjen on TikTok AJ: @ajclingerman on Instagram | @roll_model on TikTok Roll Model Grappling: @rollmodelgrappling on Instagram 🎶 Production Recording, theme music, editing, and production by Jen at The Brassy Broadcasting Company ⚠️ Disclaimer The Beauty and the Gi podcast is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. It is not a substitute for professional medical, mental health, or coaching advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Please consult your healthcare provider for any condition.

Oct 9

Do you ever catch yourself downplaying how much you care about Jiu-Jitsu just because you don’t compete? If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re “serious enough” about your training as a non-competitor, this episode is for you. What does it mean to take your Jiu Jitsu seriously—even when chasing gold medals isn’t your focus? We dig into what purposeful training looks like for recreational practitioners, how to balance goal-setting with busy grown-up life, and why “serious” Jiu Jitsu is more about intention than intensity. This episode is about helping you create a meaningful, purpose-driven path in Jiu-Jitsu that fits your life. Chapter Highlights (00:00) Why Do So Many Hobbyists Downplay Their Jiu Jitsu Commitment? (01:28) Jiu-Jitsu Training with Purpose: How to Create Meaningful Goals Without Competing (03:35) Simple Ways to Add Intention and Focus to Your Rolling (04:50) Healthy Expectations: Finding Balance Between Fun and Progress in Jiu-Jitsu (05:51) Navigating Busy Seasons: How to Prioritize Jiu Jitsu When Life Gets Hectic (07:30) Can You Be a “Serious” Practitioner If You Don’t Compete? (08:31) How to Be Taken Seriously by Your Coaches and Teammates (Without Competing) (09:41) Size, Strength, and Technique: When Does It Really Matter? (12:47) Tips for Smaller Grapplers—Using Your Unique Attributes on the Mat (13:47) How To Support and Communicate With Training Partners (15:05) Boosting Confidence: What If Your Technique Doesn’t Work Against Bigger Opponents? (16:19) Managing Expectations—So You're Not Crying in the Car Post-Roll (17:32) On & Off the Mat Tips for Setting Realistic, Personalized Jiu Jitsu Goals We’d love to hear about your own experience—drop a comment or DM us on Instagram @beautyandthegipodcast and let’s keep this conversation rolling! If you love the podcast, share it with a friend! You can also leave us a 5-star rating in Spotify or Apple Podcasts . 🎧 Listen on Your Favorite App Spotify Apple Podcasts Audible Episodes.fm YouTube 🎯 New to the Podcast? Start Here Start Here Spotify Playlist Start Here on Our Website 🥋 Learn More About Roll Model Grappling Camp rollmodelswanted.com 📱 Connect with Jen & AJ on Social Media Instagram – @beautyandthegipodcast Jen: @brassybroadjen on Instagram | @brassybroadjen on TikTok AJ: @ajclingerman on Instagram | @roll_model on TikTok Roll Model Grappling: @rollmodelgrappling on Instagram 🎶 Production Recording, theme music, editing, and production by Jen at The Brassy Broadcasting Company ⚠️ Disclaimer The Beauty and the Gi podcast is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. It is not a substitute for professional medical, mental health, or coaching advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Please consult your healthcare provider for any condition.

Sep 25

Where is the line between fierce competition and compassion on the mats? Imagine the split-second decisions grapplers must make—do you trust the referee, or is it your duty to protect your opponent even at the risk of losing your match? Do you prioritize victory or the safety of your opponent during a Jiu-Jitsu competition? We’re exploring the moral dilemmas, emotional moments, and the culture that shapes competition and community in BJJ. Would you risk injuring someone for a medal, or would you let go of a submission to keep your opponent safe? DM us your answer on Instagram or leave a comment if you’re watching this on YouTube or Spotify. Chapters and Episode Highlights (00:00) Jen’s return from summer sabatical to the podcast (01:17) Do you protect your opponent? (03:10) Does your answer change when there is big money on the line? (04:48) What do you do when the ref isn’t paying attention? (09:44) Is there a place for empathy on the mat? (13:00) Equal pay and opportunities for women in high-stakes tournaments (14:52) What would you do? Listener reflection and calls to action (15:12) On and off the mat tips (17:03) Upcoming camps and Jen's thoughts on being a new purple belt If you love the podcast, share it with a friend! You can also leave us a 5-star rating in Spotify or Apple Podcasts . 🎧 Listen on Your Favorite App Spotify Apple Podcasts Audible Episodes.fm YouTube 🎯 New to the Podcast? Start Here Start Here Spotify Playlist Start Here on Our Website 🥋 Learn More About Roll Model Grappling Camp rollmodelswanted.com 📱 Connect with Jen & AJ on Social Media Instagram – @beautyandthegipodcast Jen: @brassybroadjen on Instagram | @brassybroadjen on TikTok AJ: @ajclingerman on Instagram | @roll_model on TikTok Roll Model Grappling: @rollmodelgrappling on Instagram 🎶 Production Recording, theme music, editing, and production by Jen at The Brassy Broadcasting Company ⚠️ Disclaimer The Beauty and the Gi podcast is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. It is not a substitute for professional medical, mental health, or coaching advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Please consult your healthcare provider for any condition.

Sep 11

We're answering your Jiu-Jitsu questions in this episode. Thanks for sending your questions in! If you love the podcast, share it with a friend! You can also leave us a 5-star rating in Spotify or Apple Podcasts . 🎧 Listen on Your Favorite App Spotify Apple Podcasts Audible Episodes.fm YouTube 🎯 New to the Podcast? Start Here Start Here Spotify Playlist Start Here on Our Website 🥋 Learn More About Roll Model Grappling Camp rollmodelswanted.com 📱 Connect with Jen & AJ on Social Media Instagram – @beautyandthegipodcast Jen: @brassybroadjen on Instagram | @brassybroadjen on TikTok AJ: @ajclingerman on Instagram | @roll_model on TikTok Roll Model Grappling: @rollmodelgrappling on Instagram 🎶 Production Recording, theme music, editing, and production by Jen at The Brassy Broadcasting Company ⚠️ Disclaimer The Beauty and the Gi podcast is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. It is not a substitute for professional medical, mental health, or coaching advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Please consult your healthcare provider for any condition.