October 10, 2025
Feel Behind in Your Career, Relationship or Life? THIS Is the Episode You Need To Stop Comparing Yourself
On Purpose with Jay ShettyAbout this episode
Do you ever feel behind in life? What are you comparing yourself to? Today, Jay shares a powerful reminder for anyone who feels like they’re behind in life. Maybe you’re comparing your career path to a friend’s promotion, your relationship status to someone’s engagement photos, or your lifestyle to highlight reels on social media. Jay explains how natural it is to feel this way, especially after school, when the timelines that once kept us moving together begin to split apart. Drawing on social comparison theory, he shows how easily our self-worth can become tied to where others seem to be, instead of honoring the unique path we’re on. Jay reframes the idea of being “behind,” not as a failure but an essential part of growth. Through psychology and real-life examples, he emphasizes that endings matter more than beginnings, and that setbacks are not signs of weakness, but proof that we’re actively building resilience. He challenges our attachment to comfort, which can quietly keep us stuck, and reminds us that what feels like delay is really unseen preparation for the skills and foundations that lead to future success. Jay shifts how we measure progress, from chasing empty wins to recognizing that grit matters more than perfection. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Redefine Success on Your Timeline How to Recognize False Progress in Others How to See Struggle as Strength How to Turn Setbacks into Resilience How to Trust That You’re Not Late The struggles you face today are shaping your resilience, your wisdom, and your strength for tomorrow. You are not late, you are not lost, you are simply on your own timeline. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here . Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:52 Do You Feel Behind in Life? 02:37 #1: You Aren't Late, You're on a Different Timeline 06:07 #2: Endings Define the Story 08:42 #3: Comfort is What Really Keeps You Stuck 12:27 #4: Progress Doesn’t Guarantee Happiness 14:01 #5: Struggling Is Proof You’re Growing 17:49 #6: You're not Behind, You're Developing Skills See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.