About this episode
In today's episode, we get introduced to an osteopath named Alvin Brown who changed Ben's entire attitude to success, leadership, relationships, and life in general. Alvin does not appear on the show but Ben recounts the story of how they met when he was young and driven but lacking guidance. At first Ben went to see Alvin in his capacity as an osteopath but the conversations that they had during their sessions were the reason Ben ended up choosing Alvin to be his mentor. In today's conversation, Ben and Ashley use the techniques that Alvin taught Ben as a segue into a fascinating discussion about mentorship and growth. They discuss what a mentor can do to help rewire the brain and the different kinds of teachers out there, from strategic business coaches to more holistic role models for life in general. You'll learn three habits for developing an empowered attitude, which are the words one uses, one's avoidance of a victim mentality, and the nurturing of a growth mindset. Other topics covered are taking responsibility for one's actions, the necessity of giving before asking, and the virtue in being consistent. Ben also gets into his 25-year vista approach, which involves envisioning the person one wishes to end up being, and using that as a benchmark when finding a mentor. Tune in for some brilliant advice on how to live your best life in a body you love from Ben and Ashleigh. Also, remember to head over to freshpressedoliveoil.com and enter 'getfresh35' to get a bottle of the best olive oil around for only a dollar! Timestamps How great it is that this show isn't from the perspective of one gender. [00:32] The value of seeing hardships as opportunities to grow. [03:16] What Ben's first mentor Alvin Brown taught him about checking his victim mindset. [4:26] Three essential language and mindset-related habits for feeling empowered. [08:00] The connection between taking responsibility for choices and losing a victim mindset. [11:16] Ashleigh's practical approach to women's rights and the victim mindset. [13:25] Ben's advice to commit wholeheartedly to the advice from a coach who truly cares. [16:06] Why Alvin was like Bill from Trillion Dollar Coach and Ben's love of consistency. [19:13] The difference between coaches who are tactical and mentors who are role models. [21:52] Why Ben works off a base of integrity and he wouldn't change lives with anybody. [24:09] How to find a mentor using the 25-year vista and the teaching of Dr. John Demartini. [25:54] A tip to remember to offer a potential mentor something in return. [29:01] The mentality of giving before asking that applies to business and relationships. [33:42] Why it's necessary to invest in a goal so that one can be accountable to its pursuit. [34:11] The reason it is dangerous to take freebies once in a position of power. [35:46]