About this episode
Mormon missions, gay awakenings, and erogenous ears—Carson shares his journey from closeted perfectionism to open sexual exploration after a spinal cord injury reshaped his body, identity, and path to pleasure. 📈 STATS | 28 gay cis male, he/him pronouns, LGBTQ/Disability advocate, conservative Mormon upbringing in Salt Lake City, based in NYC. ⏰ TIME CODE 00:00 Growing up Mormon in a military family and nravigating queer denial 05:01 Masturbation shame, early arousal, and confessing same-sex attraction to his mom 13:05 Reporting himself to the bishop and experiencing church discipline 17:15 Spiritual perfectionism and repression through high school 21:30 Falling in love with male friends and learning to redirect desire 25:32 Coming out to his parents and trying to stay Mormon 30:55 Meeting a closeted missionary companion and finding mirrored acceptance 34:00 Falling in love, embracing gay identity, and then breaking his neck 38:07 Losing sensation, shifting identity, and putting sex on pause to survive 43:40 First experiments with sex post-injury: dating apps, erections, and expectations 46:45 Explaining his body: sensation maps, types of erections, and what to expect 49:55 Learning to climax through ears, scalp, and neck 53:45 The beauty of prolonged pleasure and non-penile orgasms 56:25 Sexual scripts: how he sets expectations and teaches partners what he needs 1:01:00 Direction, feedback, and why mutual vulnerability makes better sex 1:04:06 Redefining pleasure, creating space for requests, and letting go of shame 1:07:02 What he’d say to his younger self and why every body deserves joy 1:10:11 On sexy calendars, reclaiming sexual identity, and refusing to closet any part of himself 🤩 TOPICS | Able-bodied privilege, accessibility in hookups, anal stimulation, anxiety about desirability, arousal through scalp touch, autonomy in pleasure, body image after paralysis, bottoming goals, celibacy and faith, communication during sex, connection without penetration, consent conversations, dating as a disabled person, disability and attractiveness, disability and queerness, disabled sex education, erotic neck sensitivity, ethical porn, exploration after trauma, family reactions to queerness, gay Mormon experience, Grindr as experimentation, healthcare and spinal cord injuries, hookup safety tips, internalized homophobia, invisible erogenous zones, LGBTQ+ identity and religion, male-male makeouts, masturbation guilt, missionary companionship intimacy, monogamous queer relationships, neuroplasticity and sex, nontraditional orgasms, orgasm without ejaculation, physical therapy after injury, psychological erections, religious trauma, repressed attraction, responsive desire, safe sexting with strangers, self-advocacy in bed, sex after injury, sex scripts for partners, sexual agency with paralysis, spinal cord injury sexuality, spontaneous erections, taboo arousal zones, talking dirty with disabilities, trauma-informed sex, vibrator ejaculation technique, wheelchair user dating 🔗 CARSON LINKS | @carson_tueller Originally released December 2019. 🔥 PARTNERS | Make your world a sexier place—get a discount & support the pod! BEDUCATED: Learn how to have great sex | Use the code LOVER for 50% off your yearly membership RUGIET READY: A next-gen prescription to amplify arousal | Use the code LOVER for 15% off FIRMTECH: Performance-enhancing cock rings | Use the code LOVER for 15% off BUTTER WELLNESS: Prioritizing prostate pleasure | Use the code LOVER for 20% off SDC: A place for swingers to connect ⚡️ WORK WITH WYOH | Explore (y)our creativity: wyohlee.com/links One-on-one photoshoots, content creation, writing retreats & creative support 🤩 PATREON | Wy’s exclusive updates, stories & the community discord: patreon.com/wyohlee 💸 PLAY | Tickle Wy’s moneykink: 🪭 onlyfans.com/wyohlee 🐈⬛ sextpanther.com/wyoh 🎙️ BE A GUEST, SHARE A STORY, ASK A QUESTION | Leave a voice memo at sexstoriespodcast.com 🙌 SHARE SEX STORIES 🌈 Explore (y)our curiosity. 🤑 Offer irresistible invitations. 💦 Spread ripples of love. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .