About this episode
Hard-ons and hate-ons, creative sex energy, and post-ovulation pleasure—Dyana Valentine shares how she’s redefining arousal, embracing curiosity, and treating sex as a source of joy and power. 📈 STATS | 49 heterosexual cis female, she/her pronouns, single, college professor and esoteric artist based in Los Angeles, into: acts of service, intellectual intimacy, sensual conversation, creative expression, domestic generosity, spiritual connection, embodied power, and exploring edges of pain and pleasure. ⏰ TIME CODE 00:00 Redefining sex as joy, satisfaction, and personal power 02:08 Early sensations, self-pleasure, and feeling at home in her body 04:58 Owning desire out loud and celebrating vibrators without shame 08:29 First sex with the neighbor boy and the unforgettable family meeting 11:32 Acts of service, intellectual turn-ons, and sensual conversations 15:14 Consent as connection, edges of power and pain, and chore sex 18:05 Flirting with a casual sex renaissance and embracing curiosity 20:41 Pleasure, oppression, and the stigma of being a sexual professor 22:34 Wondering what sex will be like after ovulation ends 24:49 Practicing availability through art, awareness, and everyday arousal 26:54 The myth of mutuality, emotional economics, and relational imbalance 30:33 Isolation, safety, and nine years without partnered sex 32:41 Boundaries, grief, and rediscovering self-trust 37:39 Advice for younger self—teach, share, and try everything 40:22 What she’d do differently and how disconnect led to kinky exploration 🤩 TOPICS | Acts of service turn-ons, adolescent sexual curiosity, age and sexual rebirth, agency in desire, arousal beyond penetration, artistic self-expression, asking for what you want, autonomy in pleasure, bad kissing, body confidence, breaking sexual silence, calling out rape culture, casual sex renaissance, clitoral awareness, communication during sex, consent as connection, creative erotic energy, defining sex beyond intercourse, desire after menopause, doing dishes as foreplay, domestic intimacy, emotional boundaries, emotional economics, empowered femininity, family conversations about sex, female pleasure, finding your voice, first-time sex stories, freedom after breakup, grown-woman sexuality, guilt and shame release, healing through self-pleasure, heteronormative expectations, Hitachi Magic Wand, intellectual intimacy, intimacy and grief, late-life sexuality, letting go of inhibition, life transitions, listening as intimacy, masturbation and self-connection, mature desire, mindful arousal, mutual respect, myth of mutuality, no-penetration pleasure, nontraditional sex education, open relationships, orgasmic joy, owning your arousal, parent-child sex talks, personal sovereignty, pleasure as power, pleasure without penetration, redefining attraction, relationship boundaries, releasing shame, self-discovery, self-pleasure rituals, sensual confidence, service and seduction, sex education workshops, sexual agency, sexual communication, sexual curiosity, sexual healing, sexual independence, sexual self-awareness, sharing sexual stories, solo pleasure, source energy of sex, speaking desire out loud, spirituality and sensuality, starting over, taboo-breaking conversations, teaching sex ed, teenage sex exploration, unlearning sexual shame, vulnerability in pleasure, washing dishes foreplay, women’s empowerment, women’s pleasure, world sexuality perspectives. 🔗 DYANA LINKS | dyanavalentine.com 🔥 PARTNERS | Make your world a sexier place—get a discount & support the pod! BEDUCATED: Learn how to have great sex | Use the code LOVER for 50% off your yearly membership RUGIET READY: A next-gen prescription to amplify arousal | Use the code LOVER for 15% off FIRMTECH: Performance-enhancing cock rings | Use the code LOVER for 15% off BUTTER WELLNESS: Prioritizing prostate pleasure | Use the code LOVER for 20% off SDC: A place for swingers to connect See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .