About this episode
Next-level self-love, playful acts of service, and a praise kink—Olivia shares how her everyday practice of giving and receiving has led to a wonderful life, her favorite types of dirty talk, the connections that make touch tantalizing, how she discovered her desires, and the ways she wants to give and receive. 📈 STATS | 28 straight (so far) sapiosexual demisexual Black/African American cis woman, she/her pronouns, single, celibate, thinking about dating, monogamous, threesome-curious bad bitch good girl with a praise kink into: compliments, intimate sex, foreplay, dirty talk 00:00 Seizing every opportunity to treat herself 03:51 Generosity of adults in her early life and her own receiving superpowers 08:05 Healthy romanticizing and an expanded understanding of self-love 11:38 The difference between romantic, platonic and self love 13:38 A love of linguistic specificity and astrological geek-outs 16:46 Communicating clearly as a Black woman and being born into a state of receiving 21:43 Allowing others to nurture and how it differs from self-care 26:45 Desiring romance that begins with connected conversation and exploring partners’ passions 30:13 How Olivia’s love languages stem from what she wanted more of growing up 33:07 Cultivating fulfilling relationships of mutual care 36:26 A baseline of taking care of herself in order to be of service to others 41:11 The everyday pleasures of walking her dog, experiencing the arts, and breathing fresh air 44:33 Opportunistic friend sex and wanting to be enthusiastically desired 51:19 The hotness of emotional intelligence and genuine kindness plus meeting people where they’re at 55:18 Needing mental, emotional, and physical stimulation for the energetic exchange of sex 1:00:46 Practicing dirty talk, loving praise while riding, and being turned on by doing a good job 1:05:39 Fueling partnered pleasure via real-time feedback 1:12:33 A love of sucking dick and doggy style 1:15:34 Open to receiving oral and anal in a safe, enthusiastic connection 1:18:53 Redirecting partners from cunnilingus and advice for fingering 1:24:47 Safety tips for impact play and intuiting types of touch needed 1:29:03 When she likes playing rough, hair pulling, and a hand on her neck 1:31:19 Very sensitive nipples and wanting to savor sex 1:33:57 Erogenous zones all over and a surprisingly sweet act of intimacy 1:38:12 Learning about sex from talking with women rather than getting a formal education 1:42:03 Unlearning what porn taught her and navigating unhelpful educational tools 1:46:19 Confidence and explicit direction about how to be touched 1:47:45 How her brother’s friends helped her be open with herself and others about sex 1:53:08 The sexual blueprint of what she wants to pursue in connections and knowing what she doesn’t want 1:56:34 Desire for playful sex that allows for the full emotional experience (including giggling while cumming) 2:03:06 Building trust, needing mental stimulation and a gradual pace when it comes to sex and relationships 2:09:10 Enforcing boundaries and why WE LOVE CONDOMS!!! 2:15:28 Looking forward to a partner who is as passionate about her as she is about herself 2:20:43 Wanting a long-term, ravishing connection with exciting experiments and open communication 2:23:41 Thoughts on sex with other women, FFM, FMF, MFM, and MMF threesomes, and double penetration 2:30:12 Approaching sex as an act of service from a selfless place 2:36:03 Spreading love by being kind and receiving people as they are in any given moment 2:38:42 Reconnecting to her artistry, sharing her natural gifts by educating others, and reflecting the kindness she’s received out into the world 🤩 TOPICS | Accepting pleasure, aftercare practices, anal curiosity, anticipation and arousal, appreciation through words, art and sensuality, assertive communication, astrology and intimacy, authenticity in relationships, being of service in bed, black femininity and desire, body awareness, breathing and embodiment, care-based connection, clarity in consent, communicating boundaries, confidence in sex, conscious kink, conversation-driven seduction, cunnilingus communication, dirty language exploration, discovering erogenous zones, double penetration fantasies, emotional availability, enthusiastic consent, erotic generosity, erotic growth, erotic service, erotic trust, evolving definitions of love, eye contact intimacy, feminine expression, fingering advice, foreplay connection, giving and receiving touch, gratitude in intimacy, group sex curiosity, hand-on-neck sensation, healing through pleasure, healthy boundaries, high-sensitivity lovers, honoring limits, impact play safety, intuitive sex, joy of giving pleasure, kink compatibility, learning from lovers, loving direction during sex, mindful masturbation, mutual care in relationships, naked vulnerability, nipple sensitivity, open-hearted conversations, oral appreciation, orgasmic laughter, partner feedback, passionate connection, physical affection, playful dominance, praise kink joy, presence during penetration, receiving oral with enthusiasm, rediscovering arousal, relationship reciprocity, respectful roughness, riding rhythm, safe anal play, safety in exploration, savoring sensation, self-pleasure rituals, sensual confidence, sexual blueprint awareness, sexual confidence, sexual curiosity, sexual discovery, sexual fluidity, sexual playfulness, sexual self-awareness, shared fantasies, slow-build desire, softness and strength, spanking guidance, spontaneous connection, spoken desire, stimulation variety, sucking dick enjoyment, talkative lovers, teasing and timing, threesomes with women and men, throat stimulation, trust-building through sex, unlearning porn habits, verbal arousal, vulnerability and receiving, walking embodiment, whole-body sensitivity, women-led pleasure, words of affirmation, worshipful sex, yearning for connection. 🔗 OLIVIA LINKS | @livvcarter / @livvonfilm / @notoliviabenson 🔥 PARTNERS | Make your world a sexier place—get a discount & support the pod! 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