About this episode
BDSM, female Domination and non-monogamy—Miss Butter shares her evolution from Lifestyle Dominant lover to ProDomme while navigating family life. 📈 STATS | 50 demisexual Jewish woman, she/her pronouns, ENM, married in a relationship of 30 years, Los Angeles based, into: Dominance, BDSM, group play, lifestyle Domination. 00:00 Discovering the joys of sex and how she became a virgin again 06:46 Dissolving her own shame parenting a teenage daughter 10:54 Selective penetration and boundaries for different partners 15:03 New partner negotiations and playing safely with toys 22:22 How she loves making client’s dreams come true 24:07 A life-changing strip club make-out session 28:47 What it’s like to be a Domme married to a Dom in a Female-Led Relationship (FLR) 34:55 Finding fellow lifestyle FemmeDommes and creating safety for male submissives 39:44 Priorities in polyamory, community, and playing without her husband 48:40 Studying BDSM formally and expanding play into work as a ProDomme 54:10 Building Lifestyle relationships with clients 58:26 Creating physical fantasy spaces, meeting desires in surprising ways, and intentional healing 1:05:35 Aftercare, favorite toys, and synchronized heartbeats 1:09:36 Parenting while kinky and the positive effect of openness to questions 1:16:30 Coming out as a ProDomme to her kids 1:22:21 How she aspires to create community and spread ethical Dominance 1:24:46 Staying curious and how to find your “real true Domme” 🤩 TOPICS | Aftercare rituals, ADHD and sexuality, affirming dominance, age of first sexual experiences, alternative relationship models, artistic BDSM scenes, authentic connection, authority exchange, boundary setting, caregiving dominance, client relationships, creative roleplay, demi-sexual identity, ethical kink, ethical parenting, ethical polyamory, evolving sexuality, female-led marriage, feminist dominance, fetish education, finding femme Doms, fluid bonding conversations, group play, hairbrush spanking, healing through kink, household power exchange, impact play, kink coaching, kink community building, kink negotiation, kink safety, latex fantasies, lifestyle dominance, lifestyle Domme stories, love and trust in polyamory, mindful kink, nurturing dominance, open marriage, orgasm control, parenting and sexuality, poly dynamics, poly family structure, poly lessons, power exchange philosophy, professional Domme work, ProDomme journey, psychological dominance, sensual creativity, sensory exploration, sex-positive parenting, sexual agency, sexual boundaries, sexual healing, sexual neurodivergence, sexual openness, sexual storytelling, spanking scenes, submissive coaching, submissive empowerment, submissive rights, suspension play, threesomes with female partners, trauma healing through BDSM, trust in dominance, vanilla curiosity, vulnerability in kink, warrior latex rituals, women in dominance, working with submissives, worship scenes. 🔗 MISS BUTTER LINKS | supersweetbutter.com 🔥 PARTNERS | Make your world a sexier place—get a discount & support the pod! BEDUCATED: Learn how to have great sex | Use the code LOVER for 50% off your yearly membership RUGIET READY: A next-gen prescription to amplify arousal | Use the code LOVER for 15% off FIRMTECH: Performance-enhancing cock rings | Use the code LOVER for 15% off BUTTER WELLNESS: Prioritizing prostate pleasure | Use the code LOVER for 20% off SDC: A place for swingers to connect ⚡️ WORK WITH WYOH | Explore (y)our creativity: wyohlee.com/links One-on-one photoshoots, content creation, writing retreats & creative support 🤩 PATREON | Wy’s exclusive updates, stories & the community discord: patreon.com/wyohlee 💸 PLAY | Tickle Wy’s moneykink: 🪭 onlyfans.com/wyohlee 🐈⬛ sextpanther.com/wyoh 🎙️ BE A GUEST, SHARE A STORY, ASK A QUESTION | Leave a voice memo at sexstoriespodcast.com 🙌 SHARE SEX STORIES 🌈 Explore (y)our curiosity. 🤑 Offer irresistible invitations. 💦 Spread ripples of love. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .