About this episode
Zach (32 bisexual polyamorous kinkster and author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto) has a great sex life—it’s sex positive and sexy and slutty and bisexual and kinky, there are glory holes, gay clubs, daisy chains and nipple play, he’s hosted bukkakes and gang bangs and cum dumps, he has tons of casual sex (catch him when he’s horny!), deeply intimate sex and novel and hardcore sex, prostate play makes him shoot “like a fucking geyser,” and people tell him things like, “I want you to fuck my gay husband.” If we can get his book Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto on The NY Times top 100 we might get him to do some porn-y stuff on onlyfans, but for now he’s busy writing—for Men’s Health and Cosmo and his extremely raunchy Boyslut Zine, and he joins Wyoh to talk about how he went from a 10 to a 1 on the shame-o-meter (for details, read Boyslut), what it’s like to live in a sex-positive world where friend hangs turn into orgies, going from thinking he was going to die a virgin to celebrating his bisexuality and frolicking on Sniffies, how hot owning his desires and creating a space for partners to do the same has been, what it’s like to travel to different sex resorts and write about it for work—which leads to stories like getting beckoned over by a cougar. Zach’s risk tolerance includes a schedule of regular testing and a fair amount of barrier-free fucking, and he reflects on learning about sex via the media coverage of Bill Clinton and Monica Lewinsky, and shares stories of early anxiety, judgement and shame spirals that affected his boners until he learned to say, “hey, I might not get hard.” He talks about first exclusively topping, a bad first experience bottoming that led to anal fissures, how it took a woman to get him to enjoy anal, the five years he spent getting drunk and hooking up with guys until his therapist asked him a pointed question about his “bi confusion.” Zach talks about getting paid to perform live sex acts at clubs, hooking up with and paying sex workers, how he decides what to share with whom and when in terms of his sex-related work, his messy intro to poly and his observations around the generational and locational differences in various non-monogamous communities, and how he went from getting his PhD in clinical psychology and working in smoking cessation to writing from a bi perspective for a bi perspective. He wants everyone to know that they are normal and there’s nothing to be ashamed of. He leaves Wyoh with a tease of what’s next (bisexual RomCom YES PLEASE) and a giant sexy jacuzzi fantasy. Zachary’s Update from July 2024 | Daisy Chain Happy Place 🔗 ZACH LINKS | zacharyzane.com 🔥 PARTNERS | Make your world a sexier place—get a discount & support the pod! SDC: A place for swingers to connect FIRMTECH: Performance-enhancing cock rings | Use the code LOVER for 15% off BEDUCATED: Learn how to have great sex BUTTER WELLNESS: Prioritizing prostate pleasure | Use the code LOVER for 20% off ⚡️ WORK WITH WYOH | Explore (y)our creativity: wyohlee.com/links One-on-one photoshoots, content creation, writing retreats & creative support 🤩 PATREON | Wy’s exclusive updates, stories & the community discord: patreon.com/wyohlee 💸 PLAY | Tickle Wy’s moneykink: 🪭 onlyfans.com/wyohlee 🐈⬛ sextpanther.com/wyoh 🎙️ BE A GUEST, SHARE A STORY, ASK A QUESTION | Leave a voice memo at sexstoriespodcast.com 🙌 SHARE SEX STORIES 🌈 Explore (y)our curiosity. 🤑 Offer irresistible invitations. 💦 Spread ripples of love. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .