About this episode
“Sexual attraction is when you’re… sweaty?” Ivy (22 w cis Canadian f, ace greyromantic and single) is asexual and thinks sex is FANTASTIC—for other people. For her, it’s much too fleshy with heavy topknots of sweat, lubrication and discharge that squick her out. But it’s caused some tangly feelings in terms of romance that she’s very much in the process of navigating. Does “sex” necessarily MEAN romantic? And not-sex is platonic? Ivy has been defining her sexuality with a lack of sexual attraction in an effort to combat the grossness of expectation, and that doesn’t feel quite right, either. Expectations feel yucky, and while receiving without ensuing assumptions sounds cool, is it just being selfish? The cultural messages might have us think yes, but Ivy talks about what arousal in her body and her psyche feel like to her , and shares how she wishes other people would recognize and interact with her sexuality. She’s had orgasms finds them exhausting, she prefers masturbation without a climax. Her body pleasure comes from other places, especially food— especially chocolate and pickles. We talk about how feelings of obligation leave no room for desire, and the hottest turn-on: nonjudgmental listening and understanding. 🔥 PARTNERS | Make your world a sexier place—get a discount & support the pod! SDC: A place for swingers to connect FIRMTECH: Performance-enhancing cock rings | Use the code LOVER for 15% off BEDUCATED: Learn how to have great sex BUTTER WELLNESS: Prioritizing prostate pleasure | Use the code LOVER for 20% off ⚡️ WORK WITH WYOH | Explore (y)our creativity: wyohlee.com/links One-on-one photoshoots, content creation, writing retreats & creative support 🤩 PATREON | Wy’s exclusive updates, stories & the community discord: patreon.com/wyohlee 💸 PLAY | Tickle Wy’s moneykink: 🪭 onlyfans.com/wyohlee 🐈⬛ sextpanther.com/wyoh 🎙️ BE A GUEST, SHARE A STORY, ASK A QUESTION | Leave a voice memo at sexstoriespodcast.com 🙌 SHARE SEX STORIES 🌈 Explore (y)our curiosity. 🤑 Offer irresistible invitations. 💦 Spread ripples of love. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .