About this episode
Handcuffed blowjobs, firefighter fantasies, and uncovering confidence—Curt shares how he went from a shy Southern Baptist teen to a devoted husband discovering his dominant and submissive sides. 📈 STATS | 31 straight white male, married, switch, firefighter/EMT, based in Texas. ⏰ TIME CODE 00:00 Life on the front lines and long-distance marriage 02:31 Southern Baptist upbringing and a back-of-the-bus sex talk 04:57 Late-bloomer reflections, body image, and early misconceptions 06:48 Hidden magazines and parental discoveries 09:14 Loosening shame and starting real sex conversations 13:36 Discovering masturbation, Real Sex on cable, and evolving habits 16:27 Blowjobs, mirrors, and visual turn-ons 20:24 Going down on his wife, teasing, and the “come-hither” touch 22:43 Dating older women, confidence after weight loss, and better conversations 24:09 First blowjob with handcuffs, getting caught by her mom, and early shame 28:16 Voyeurism, body dysmorphia, and avoiding cameras 33:04 Learning to feel desired and growing confidence 42:12 Dom/sub beginnings, the red collar day, and helping a partner feel beautiful 47:18 Consent, communication, and making fantasies safe 50:53 Firehouse talk, ego checks, and masculine vulnerability 57:11 Rejection, self-acceptance, and being a “shot of whiskey” 58:26 Threesome lessons: hot-tub fail vs. planned pleasure 1:04:03 Testing, STI talks, and herpes myths vs. realities 1:07:19 Married sex, switching roles, and aligning love languages 1:14:08 Rough-play surprises, negotiated spontaneity, and shared growth 1:17:24 Porn preferences, gentle dominance, and playful spanking 1:19:09 Outdoor creek sex and thunderstorm romance 1:20:36 Sex-club curiosity, watching with care, and building trust 1:22:17 Advice to his younger self and embracing constant evolution 🤩 TOPICS | Abstinence-only sex ed critique, acts of service love style, age-gap flings, affirming communication in bed, aftercare practices, anxiety around disclosure, anti-depressants and libido shifts, back-seat bus chatter about sex, Batman career vibes, being recommended to friends by lovers, body image struggles, body-positive reassurance, bondage oral play, broad-shouldered Texan firefighter/EMT, cruise-ship mirror sex, cunnilingus techniques, delayed ejaculation practice, ethical threesome planning, facial cold sores from stress and heat, female-friendly erotica, fire station locker-room culture, friends-of-friends hookups, G-spot fingering “come-here” motion, grief and intimacy after a parent’s death, HBO Real Sex memories, high-school late bloomer, hot-water sex pitfalls, HSV realities and testing, intoxicated storytelling at the station table, kink collar (red) protocol, late-night Cinemax “Skinemax,” late-night self-pleasure, long separations during the pandemic, love-language alignment, low sexual shame score, marriage while on the front lines, masturbation habits over time, mirror play as a visual turn-on, mustache and No-Shave November superstition, negotiated spontaneity, older-partner confidence boosts, outdoor creek romance, overthinking vs. staying present, park hookups and risk awareness, partners setting boundaries, performance anxiety vs. laughter during sex, porn that centers women’s pleasure, power-exchange dynamics with safeword “mercy,” realistic STI conversations, rejection resilience, religious upbringing and sexuality, rough talk with surprises, safety checks before group play, school-office aide caught mid-oral by girlfriend’s mother, sex dreams (rare but memorable), sexual health screenings, shame reduction over adulthood, “shot of whiskey” dating mindset, sixtynine fun, skin sensitivity at the tip, stress-triggered outbreaks near the eye, strip-club curiosity (observer energy), switch dynamics, teasing foreplay on inner thighs, thunderstorm walk home after outdoor play, toy experimentation (vibrating c-ring, vibrators), transparency about fantasies, trauma-informed empathy for partners, voyeuristic thrills, weight-loss confidence arc, Xena and Buffy teenage crushes. 🔥 PARTNERS | Make your world a sexier place—get a discount & support the pod! BEDUCATED: Learn how to have great sex | Use the code LOVER for 50% off your yearly membership RUGIET READY: A next-gen prescription to amplify arousal | Use the code LOVER for 15% off FIRMTECH: Performance-enhancing cock rings | Use the code LOVER for 15% off BUTTER WELLNESS: Prioritizing prostate pleasure | Use the code LOVER for 20% off SDC: A place for swingers to connect See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .