About this episode
Uninhibited horniness, dirty talk, using the stoplight system (red yellow green), and connecting through information exchanges with fellow sex nerds—Jess shares how her love for learning and deep communication fuels authentic connections both in her personal life and as a legal courtesan. 📈 STATS | 30 pansexual American-born Chinese female, she/her pronouns, ethically non-monogamous, sex nerd, legal courtesan at Sheri’s Ranch near Las Vegas, from the East Coast, into: authentic connection, sapiosexuality, auralism, sensory play, MFM FFM threesomes, dicks, behavioral economics, ancient Greek history and literature ⏰ TIME CODE 00:00 Investing in connection and being a “huge nerd” 02:54 Growing up in a Chinese-American household where “food is care” + nostalgic dishes she loves to make 05:23 The continuous process of learning self love and why she wants to go to a head spa 08:15 Auralism, naked couch time, and feeling valued through shared experiences 11:37 Why she talks through TV shows and movies 18:06 The importance of feeling valued + ethical non-monogamy (ENM) and brothel health and safety practices 21:56 Using the red, yellow, green safeword system and all the ways she likes to communicate with partners 26:06 Her introduction to sex through Tamora Pierce books and Harry Potter fanfiction 31:03 Exploring her own body, scant sisterly sex advice, and a secret make-out with a cute Italian boy 34:16 Blowing ten guys at an uninhibited high school house party 37:09 Being SO horny and what she loves about penises 40:26 How oral turned into early kink explorations with trusted partners 45:45 Creating sex contracts in high school and how she healed after an assault 50:29 Popping her cherry after six hours of warm up 53:46 Tight, wet, and being stretched 56:09 ORGASMS! Clitoral quickies, g-spot squeezes, and orgasmic neck kisses 57:53 Sapiosexuality and how she can cum from talking and reading 1:01:35 Impact play, restraints, and extremely sensitive skin 1:04:25 Masturbating in a circular bed for an audience 1:07:06 Exhibitionism origins and how many orgasms she can have in 30 minutes 1:10:31 Queer identity evolution from label-free to "definitely not straight" 1:12:01 How being a legal courtesan is a perfect fit + her favorite brothel discoveries 1:15:35 Helping a grieving widower reconnect with himself 1:19:30 Excited for an overnight with Luna, playing with more couples, and exploring other ladies (+ their friends!) 1:21:30 Her personal pleasure palace: a bed as a stage, shibari instructors, one way mirrors, and more 1:25:56 Practicing community, spreading communication, and more kissing 🤩 TOPICS | Acupuncture, aftercare cuddles, anal curiosity, ancient Greek studies, app-controlled vibrators, audience masturbation, behavioral economics degree, BDSM contracts, big brother analysis, blowjob boundaries, blowjob without reciprocity, blood play, body hair play, bondage exploration, brothel etiquette, casual kink discovery, clitoral stimulation, communication styles, consensual group sex, creative restraints, cuddly connection, cum kinks, cunnilingus enthusiasm, Dungeons and Dragons nerds, emotional intimacy, ENM boundaries, erotic scalp massage, erotic storytelling, exhibitionist fantasies, fanfiction erotica, fantasy roleplay, fetish for dicks, flogging reset, food as love language, group masturbation scenes, Harry Potter smut, head spa fantasies, hot tubs and teasing, impact fetish, incestuous shame relief, intense orgasms, Italian church makeout, jewelry crafting, kinky teenage exploration, late virginity loss, leather restraints, legal sex work, lesbian fantasies, love of curves, lover's voice fetish, male audience masturbation, masturbation countdowns, messy oral sex, mindful masturbation, naked quality time, neck arousal, neurodivergent kink planning, nipple teasing, one-way mirror voyeurism, oral kink, orgasm counting, orgasm from conversation, orgasm from reading, over-the-top edging, pegging interest, penis admiration, pleasure contracts, pleasure doms, power exchange, public sex fantasies, queer awakening, quick clit orgasms, rabbit vibrator reviews, red yellow green protocol, round bed setup, sapiosexual arousal, scalp massage kink, scalpels and exacto knives, self-exploration through books, sensual food memories, sensual restraint, sensual rituals, sensitive skin worship, sex and connection, sex nerd community, sex-positive education, shibari curiosity, shower singing kink, side boob kissing, solo performance kink, spanking for pleasure, spit versus swallow, subspace rituals, submission and trust, teenage blowjob spree, tight pussy praise, toy-assisted orgasms, trauma recovery through sex work, trust-based kink play, vaginal stretching, voyeuristic architecture, watching partners orgasm, wetness admiration, writing sex contracts, yummy orgasms. 🔗 JESSICA LINKS | sheri's ranch profile / @jessicaxie_OXO 🔥 PARTNERS | Make your world a sexier place—get a discount & support the pod! BEDUCATED: Learn how to have great sex | Use the code LOVER for 50% off your yearly membership RUGIET READY: A next-gen prescription to amplify arousal | Use the code LOVER for 15% off FIRMTECH: Performance-enhancing cock rings | Use the code LOVER for 15% off BUTTER WELLNESS: Prioritizing prostate pleasure | Use the code LOVER for 20% off SDC: A place for swingers to connect ⚡️ WORK WITH WYOH | Explore (y)our creativity: wyohlee.com/links One-on-one photoshoots, content creation, writing retreats & creative support 🤩 PATREON | Wy’s exclusive updates, stories & the community discord: patreon.com/wyohlee 💸 PLAY | Tickle Wy’s moneykink: 🪭 onlyfans.com/wyohlee 🐈⬛ sextpanther.com/wyoh 🎙️ BE A GUEST, SHARE A STORY, ASK A QUESTION | Leave a voice memo at sexstoriespodcast.com 🙌 SHARE SEX STORIES 🌈 Explore (y)our curiosity. 🤑 Offer irresistible invitations. 💦 Spread ripples of love. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .