Building a Bayis Neeman B'Yisrael Q&A - Designed Tension

This weeks question is sponsored on zchus for a Refuah shelaimah for chaya fruma bas perel Miriam Malka. Zechus for shidduch Ariella grina bat chaya Sara, Devorah bat rivka Sima, Sara bat raizel Miriam, Rachel shirafat bat raizel Miriam. For only 18 dollars you can sponsor a shiur, a Q&A, a Dvar Torah or an event. Your small contributions go a long way towards helping us continue to do the great work we are doing at Nitzotzos. To sponsor please email us at Nitzotzos@gmail.com Question: I have heard you say in your recent responses that marriage is "designed tension"... in some ways when I hear that it makes me cringe and makes me feel that issues within marriage become a self fulfilling prophecy so to speak. Would you be able to elaborate on what you mean by designed tension? How do you suggest that we navigate this designed tension? If marriage can be like olam habbah then what is the designed tension?