Connell Barrett: Dating Sucks, But You Don’t - How To Exhibit Radical Authenticity

Today we’re talking about dating and the true secret to romantic success with a real expert, Connell Barrett, author of the book Dating Sucks, But You Don’t . This show offers a ton of unique and interesting insights (even if you’re not single and on the dating scene) that will help you build confidence and open your eyes to the ways we can all improve our interactions with people. A long time prominent golf writer turned dating coach, Connell used to be shy and lonely, and totally dateless. Living in the friendzone. But then he finally found a woman who liked him, and they got married. She dumped him nine weeks later. And Connell knew it was time for change. He went on a five-year long globe-trotting quest to understand the art of male-female connection, and now, he can fix any dating problem (perhaps because he’s already had every dating problem?!). During this show, Connell talks about his book, Dating Sucks But You Don’t , the essential guide for men looking for love, and shares the true secret to romantic success. You’ll learn about why looks just don’t matter ( Connell says that good looks are like jacuzzis: “nice to have but way overrated”) and this also goes for other myths about attracting a great girlfriend, like height, money, or a 6-pack. Connell talks about why consent is sexy, and then gives some helpful tips for anyone navigating looking for love in the time of #MeToo (he also points out that for men with integrity and good intentions, dating today is easier than you might think.) We also have a great discussion on how to handle anxiety when meeting people in real life in the time of internet dating, and Connell shares his foolproof method for overcoming “approach anxiety.” Connell has appeared on Access Hollywood and the Today show, and has been published in Maxim, Cosmopolitan, Oprah Magazine, and Playboy. He’s also the official dating coach for The League — an exclusive dating app for high-achieving singles — and an advisor for AskMen and EliteDaily. Connect with him on Instagram here . TIMESTAMPS: Dating problems occur at some time for all of us. This dating coach brings some interesting insights. [01:34] Getting out of the “friend zone” can be a struggle. [05:06] You cannot fake or force the chemistry between two people. [12:16] Radical authenticity is showing the real you and showing how you are feeling. [17:40] If you are traumatized from your previous relationship breakup, you need to do some work on yourself before you start dating. [22:12] Rather than focusing on her attractiveness, think more about talking, being open. [28:55] When Connell is coaching, he takes the client out for on-site training. [30:25] Connell talks about his real-life journey from a broken marriage to dating coach. [33:44] We have to embrace rejection. It isn’t as bad as we think it is. Just do not reject yourself. [36:23] What can women do to up their game? [37:56] Women are attracted to guys who have confidence. [42:24] Golfing and dating overlap. If you don’t have confidence you can rely on courage. [44:00] Why is approaching women so hard? Learn if she rejects you, you are still a man. [48:07] The pandemic affected the singles scene. On-line dating is okay, but we are meant to interact in person. [54:09] How does a person know they are just settling? Have an abundance to choose from. [57:07] Our current generation approaches this dating/marriage situation differently than our parents’. [01:00:49] Your online dating profile should be very authentic. 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