About this episode
Eddie Capparucci is a licensed therapist and certified in the treatment of sex and porn addiction. He runs a private practice with his wife in Marietta, GA and works with men struggling with sex/porn addiction, as well as their wives who are dealing with betrayal. Eddie recently wrote the book, Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction and talks with Dr. Rob on how men can build their emotional IQ and reconnect emotionally with their families. TAKEAWAYS: [4:30] Eddie believed he was a broken and perverted person when he struggled with his own porn addiction. [6:20] If you want to work on your addiction, you need to be able to sit with discomfort. [9:45] When you’re by yourself after the wife and kids are gone, do you experience anxiety and discomfort? [11:10] How does Seeking Integrity work with trauma? [14:05] Eddie wants you to move away from shame or thinking that God hates you. [15:10] Men, you don’t have to be absent in your family’s lives because you’ve worked long hours! [16:40] A lot of men that walk into Eddie’s practice have a low emotional IQ. [19:00] Despite living through a chaotic childhood, you don’t need to distance yourself from your current family. [21:45] Men get a lot more satisfaction in their work lives than they do in their home lives and that might be because men don’t know how to seek satisfaction in their home lives. [24:05] Your partners are asking you for memorable moments. Whatever is on the computer or TV is just not as important. [25:15] What you’re about to do, is it good for the relationship? [26:35] Eddie and Dr. Rob are not just talking about sex or porn addiction, they’re talking about all addiction. [29:05] What’s wrong with watching porn? It’s not hurting anyone! [32:50] Who should read Eddie’s book, Going Deeper ? RESOURCES: The Porn Panic: Is Porn a ‘Public Health Crisis’? Sex and Relationship Healing @RobWeissMSW Sex Addiction 101 Seeking Integrity Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency Abundantlifecounselingga.com Innerchild-sexaddiction.com Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction by Eddie Capparucci Email: EdCappa@gmail.com QUOTES: “We can’t sit with our emotional pain so we learned to distract and escape.” “Don’t just assume something you don’t like or doesn’t interest you, don’t assume that’s the way it is.” “Maybe there’s a part of you inside that’s longing to play with your family and longing to be loved and connected.” “It was like that in the past, but it doesn't mean it has to continue.” “We don’t necessarily know how to grow closer to others at home, so it’s kind of avoided.”