About this episode
Dr. Rob breaks down what goes on in a man's and a woman's mind when they cheat and their partner finds out about the affair. In a continuation of last week’s episode, Dr. Rob shares whether it’s possible to recover from infidelity, whether a partner should stay in a relationship with an addict, and how you restore trust again in a relationship after cheating. TAKEAWAYS: [1:50] Codependency doesn’t actually exist. Dr. Rob explains why. [3:10] When your partner is snooping through your stuff. They’re look for reasons to stay with you! [7:35] Can couples recover from infidelity? [14:25] Every partner feels like it’s their fault for not being able to keep their cheating partner in the home. [14:55] So many people will say, ‘if only you had more sex with them, they wouldn’t cheat.’ That’s a lie! Spouses are shamed on and they have very little support. [17:20] Crazy is your new normal! [22:25] Your spouse has lost their best friend. [23:15] Should a betrayed spouse stay or should they go? [31:05] What is disclosure? [41:10] Empathy is how you heal deep relationship wounds with your partner. [41:45] How do you restore trust in a relationship? RESOURCES: Sex and Relationship Healing @RobWeissMSW Sex Addiction 101 Seeking Integrity Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency Out of the Doghouse by Robert Weiss QUOTES: “All your betrayed partner is looking for is reality, is for clarity.” “When a partner of 30 years hears that you’ve been cheating for 25 years. It’s not going to go well.” “Why would you have sex with a sex addict if you don’t trust them?” “The truth is, the more they know, the less it will hurt. What your betrayed spouse wants is honesty!”