Soul Mate GPS: Finding The Love You Want (Without Losing Yourself) W/ John Wineland #264

John Wineland is an LA-based men's group facilitator, speaker, and teacher who has been guiding both men and women — including yours truly — in the realms of life purpose, relational communication, sexual intimacy, and embodiment for the better part of a decade. His teachings are profound and powerful, but he seems to have the unique ability to deliver it with a light and humble heart. I don’t know if I’ve met another individual on this planet as warm and receptive as John. John's embodiment-driven teaching draws from not only over 30 years of experience with his own Buddhist meditative practice but also from 10 years of intensive study and practice with the renowned Yogic Intimacy teacher David Deida. Drawing from Deida's revolutionary framework — as well as the deep lineages of Vajrayana, Tantra, Kundalini yoga, Taoist, and Iron Shirt Qigong traditions — John seeks to create a profound experience for people longing to express their deepest desires with open, fierce, and loving hearts. This multi-faceted approach is both energetic and highly practical, which I can vouch for personally — John’s guidance helped me expand my capacity for communicating with, understanding, and feeling understood by members of the opposite sex (although I’m sure his work can be applied to all relationships, regardless of what they look like). This episode is almost like a one-on-one coaching session, and a lot of the questions I ask him come from a very personal place. So, you’re going to get a very honest view of what my romantic journey has been like and what I’m looking for out of a relationship today. 08:20 — What’s the newest development in John’s constantly-evolving teachings? What does it mean to be healthy, sexually? The stages of health The most sacred form of sexual health 11:30 — Conscious sexuality Why are people so interested in podcasts about sex? How most of us first learn about sex: kids at school and movies (or pornography) Having casual sex — yay or nay? When should sex enter the equation in a new relationship? How we can create negative karma with unconscious sex Conversations that we should be having in all of our intimate relationships, serious or casual 21:30 — Why men need to cultivate the feminine more deeply Moving beyond the desire for casual sex Any spiritual practice will make you more open and receptive, which will activate the feminine part of you that wants love, wants connection You can’t own your masculine if you’re rejecting your feminine 28:10 — Conscious ways to end a relationship Do men and women have different preferences? A recipe for the ideal way to end a relationship Toxic Masculinity Vs. Toxic Femininity There’s nothing wrong with feeling any emotion — it’s how they’re contained that can become an issue What should be priority #1 for men 36:12 — Learning masculine energy individuals can learn to have an awareness of their feminine It only takes three or four sentences (and a lot of courage) to communicate what’s in the depth of your heart... ...and you shouldn’t just accept it if someone shames you for that Good feedback Vs. Bad feedback in a relationship What we can learn about relationships from movies What can and should men bring to a modern, powerful woman? Integrating physical practices to build a deeper level of awareness and perception 55:57 — A huge challenge for every person today: revealing the truth of your heart (in a way that it can be accepted and honored) The art of revealing the truth of your heart as a gift It requires yogic practice and nervous system training to master this art Do you have a Masculine Core or a Feminine Core — relationally, sexually, and spiritually? When you might have to step into the masculine or feminine, even if it’s not natural for you, to support your partner How do you know if you’re in a relationship that’s wrong for you or if you need to do more inner work? 01:09:33 — Relating John’s teachings to my recent ayahuasca experience You have to be able to hold your own feminine before you can hold someone else’s in a relationship Knowing when it’s enough 01:16:17 — What tools can someone use who embodies masculine energy at work but wants to embody feminine energy in their relationships? How do you balance that? Developing a pleasure practice Practicing the art of surrender How to cultivate sensitivity A transformative eye-gazing practice that John teaches and Luke loves More about this episode. Watch it on YouTube . Connect with Luke on social media to learn how to take your lifestyle to the next level, plus catch exclusive live interviews & events: INSTAGRAM - @lukestorey // https://www.instagram.com/lukestorey/ FACEBOOK - https://www.facebook.com/MrLukeStorey/ TWITTER - @MrLukeStorey // https://twitter.com/MRLUKESTOREY YOUTUBE - https://www.youtube.com/c/LukeStorey THIS SHOW IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY: COMRAD SOCKS. I love wearing compression socks, especially when I travel, but I was always reluctant to do so. I come from the fashion industry and I like to look good. So, when I first saw Comrad Socks, I was pumped. But not only do these socks look good, they just might be the most comfortable and utilitarian pair of socks I’ve ever worn. 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Tell your family, friends, neighbors, and all your social pals Resources www.johnwineland.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/john_wineland/ Facebook: www.facebook.com/JohnWineland1/ YouTube: www.youtube.com/channel/UCTif0aTpBjQ27lRC5q6vJLw Sifu Matthew: themartialartsofwellness.com David Deida: deida.info Teo Alfero: www.TeoAlfero.com The Wolf Connection: What Wolves Can Teach Us About Being Human by Teo Alfero Related Shows Episode 31: What Men Crave & What Women Want With John Wineland Episode 85: Six Pillars Of Sexual & Spiritual Intimacy Part One With John Wineland Episode 86: Six Pillars Of Sexual & Spiritual Intimacy Part Two With John Wineland Episode 239: Higher Powered: Autobiography Of A Sex And Love Yogi W/ John Gray Episode 262: Jungle Journeys: My Ayahuasca Awakening At Soltara (Part One) Episode 263: Jungle Journeys: My Ayahuasca Awakening At Soltara (Part Two)