How To Meditate To Reduce Anxiety | Ep. 359

In today's episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit podcast, you will learn how to meditate to reduce anxiety. You'll also learn which meditation is best for anxiety and how to find a meditation practice that suits your lifestyle and your recovery needs. With the pressure of today's society and the news being so scary, people are rapidly turning to meditation as a powerful tool to calm their minds and ease their anxiety. My name is Kimberley Quinlan . I am a licensed therapist and anxiety specialist, and my hope today is to teach you how you can use meditation to help manage and reduce your anxiety. What Is Meditation? Now, what is meditation? Meditation is a training in awareness, and the goal is to help you get a healthy awareness and understanding of what is going on in your mind. So often, our minds are like a puppy. They are just going all over the place, jumping, skipping, yelling, screaming, and going in all different directions. If we aren't skilled, and if we aren't intentional with that, we can be off with that, off down the track in negative thinking, scary thinking, and depressive thinking. The Benefits Of Meditation For Anxiety Relief There are many benefits of meditation for anxiety relief. Meditation helps train your brain. Now, there are so many benefits to meditation for anxiety relief, and I want to share with you some of those benefits. The first one is, it rewires your brain. It reduces the activity in the amygdala, which is the part of the brain that is responsible for the fear response. Meditation can also lower stress hormones such as cortisol. It can increase the production of those feel-good neurotransmitters like serotonin and dopamine. This is really important, particularly if you struggle with depression. It can also shift the brain chemistry and lead to improved mood, reduced anxiety, and an overall sense of well-being. We could also argue that this would be helpful for anybody, even if they don't have anxiety. We also know that meditation cultivates mindfulness, which we talk a lot about here on Your Anxiety Toolkit, which is the practice of being fully present and nonjudgmental in the moment. Meditation increases self-compassion and acceptance, which I think we all agree can help us with our mental health, and it helps reduce negative thinking patterns and also reduces self-criticism. Common Problems People Have With Meditation Now, there are a couple of problems here, though, with meditation. Often, when people come to me, they'll say, "I don't know about this whole meditation thing. It sounds a bit like a cult or a bit like a scam or a fad, a psychology fad." Often, that's because people have a misled idea about what meditation is and how it works. One of the main problems that I hear is that people expect that meditation will, poof, make their anxiety go right away. As they're practicing meditation—and it is a meditation practice—as they're starting to practice this meditation, they're getting frustrated because they're thinking, "This isn't working. It's not making my anxiety go away." We want to first challenge the idea that meditation is not a quick fix. It's not something that's going to, poof, make your anxiety go away, but there are so many benefits that I will talk to you about here in just a second. Another problem that people have with meditation is they get frustrated with the practice. They have these expectations that they should be able to do it. Well, simply because it's often sitting or very stationary, they assume, "I must be really good at this. It's such a basic task." But the truth is, it's not. We have to remove those expectations that we will be excellent at it, that it should be easy, or that discomfort won't arise. Another problem people have is that they do experience anxiety while they're meditating, and they'll say, "I'm here to get away from my anxiety, but when I'm meditating, everything is still, and I actually feel more anxious." We'll talk about that here in just a second. People also don't like meditation because they have been told that the solution to anxiety is to make it go away. And so, what would this mindfulness meditation practice really do if we're actually just sitting there thinking? What a waste of time, actually putting more focus on the actual problem of anxiety. Again, not true, but these are the common problems people have. The last one is, people say, "I don't have time for meditation." I always laugh because I do know that the Dalai Lama said, "For those who don't have time to meditate, they're the ones who need to meditate twice as long." That always made me laugh because there's been many times where I've said, "Oh, I don't have time today," and I laughed thinking, okay, even more important that these are the days that I focus on meditation. Which Meditation Is Best For Anxiety? Let's talk about which meditation is best for anxiety, because I know you're here to talk about how meditation can help with your anxiety. Now, there are many types of meditation. No one really agrees what the best one is, and no one really even agrees on the specific types because there are so many and so many modifications. But here are some options—we will also talk about later how to apply these to your anxiety disorder—that you may want to consider. VIPASSANA MEDITATION The first one is mindfulness, or what we call Vipassana meditation. Now, this is a meditation that really helps you become skillful in how you respond to your intrusive thoughts, your feelings, and your sensations. BODY SCAN MEDITATION Another type of meditation is body scan meditation. This is very body- and somatic-centered in that we're focusing on different parts of the body, often with some kind of relaxation technique to slowly move down the body and move us into a place of relaxation. Now, there are pros and cons to this meditation. Some people find it very relaxing, especially when we're looking at getting sleep. Others find that, again, their expectations are very high, and then they get quite frustrated when they're unable to get relaxed, because the truth is, when we're anxious, when that amygdala is firing in our brain, it is really hard to relax. Sometimes meditation in and of itself is not going to fix that. But a body scan meditation is a really effective one, particularly if you're trying to slow down the nervous system. Maybe look at trying to get some sleep, a nap, or some rest. VISUALIZATION MEDITATION Another type of meditation is visualization meditation. This is where you actually visualize something happening to you. Maybe you're walking along a path or along a beach. You're in a relaxed setting. Let's say you're an athlete. It might be visualizing you doing the activity, the exercise, or the skill that you're practicing—a layup for basketball, running a marathon, or so forth. The visualization can help with empowerment. It can help promote creativity. It can help create a sense of mastery over something that you haven't yet mastered. WALKING MEDITATION Another type of meditation is walking meditation. This is a great one, particularly if you're someone who is very sedentary during your work. I am one of those people. I sit a lot during my day. Walking meditation is similar to mindfulness meditation in that you're very aware of the present moment, what it feels like for your feet to touch the ground, for the balls of your feet to touch the ground compared to the heel of your feet, what it feels like for the wind to blow on your face, or what it feels like for the weight balance, going from left foot to right foot, and so forth. SELF-INQUIRY MEDITATION Another type of meditation practice is self-inquiry meditation. This often involves inquiry or curiosity to who I am in this moment. It might be, who am I as I hear these sounds? Who am I when I have these thoughts? There are some pros and cons to this for those with anxiety. Sometimes, when we have anxiety, we already spend a lot of time doing a lot of self-inquiry or self-rumination about who we are. What's our identity? Are we good? Are we bad? This type of meditation can be beneficial for some, but for many people with anxiety, they may find it not helpful at all unless they're with someone who can very much direct them and keep them on track with the active inquiry instead of going into rumination. MANTRA MEDITATION Another type of meditation is mantra meditation. This is where you repeat a mantra, a phrase, or a sound over and over again. It's about the training of the mind and the training of discipline for one specific sound, tone, or word. It can be very helpful, again, if there's a particular intention you're trying to go towards. But again, for those folks with anxiety, this can be very frustrating because, again, there's sort of this attachment and expectation and clinging to a certain outcome. For those of us who have anxiety, that can actually create a lot of distress in our bodies. Not to say that any of these are bad or good; it's just dependent on your specific set of situations. LOVING KINDNESS MEDITATION One that I always love and talk about all the time is loving-kindness meditation. This is an act of compassion where you send yourself others and all sentient beings loving kindness and care. It is a way of generating, practicing, and nurturing self-compassion. It is a beautiful way to be in connection with people out in the world that maybe we don't have a connection with, particularly if we're lonely or feeling isolated and alone. Loving-kindness meditation can be so beneficial to people with anxiety or depression, OCD, health anxiety, and so forth if they're feeling so alone and they're really very hard on themselves. Loving kindness is absolutely a beautiful meditation for people with anxiety. ZAZEN MEDITATION Another type of meditation is zazen meditation, which is a specific zen meditation where the goal is to be focused on a direct experience of this present moment. The main goal is non-attachment. The goal is to allow everything to be just as it is. It's a very disciplined practice, but can be very beneficial to people who have anxiety. BREATHE MEDITATION The last two: number one, breath meditation where you focus on the breath and you have that as your focal point. This is very beneficial for people with anxiety. The only thing I would say is, for those who have somatic obsessions of a specific type of OCD, if your somatic obsession is already focused on the breath, we actually then wouldn't practice this because it would actually add to their hyper-awareness. But overall, breath meditation is a very beneficial practice for people with anxiety. SOUND MEDITATION And the last one is a sound meditation. This is where your focal point is on sound. Very beneficial for those with somatic obsession and very beneficial for people who really like the vibration of sound and really love music, and music is something that grounds them, lifts them up, motivates them, and so forth. There are different types of meditations and some pros and cons, but there are some specific things I want you to know and remember as you start a meditation practice and while meditating, because so many people have come to me to say, "I don't like meditating. It doesn't help me. Therefore, I'm not going to do it." I feel that that is such a shame because meditation can be such a powerful mental health practice. It can be such powerful training for the brain. I often say to my clients, when you start to notice some tightness in your knee or some shoulder pain, you don't just ignore it. You think, okay, I have an opportunity to strengthen that muscle around the knee or stretch out that shoulder. We usually move in and do some work, exercises, and practices to create an environment where that pain can go away. I think of meditation as being exactly that. It's like physical therapy for the brain, and it can help. Like I talked about, there are so many benefits to meditation, but it does require that we do it specifically in a way that doesn't make more anxiety. Now I have a really exciting thing I want to mention to you before I get into all the things I want you to remember as you move into your meditation practice. Because so many people have come to me and said that they've listened to meditations online, they've gone to meditation trainings, and they actually found it to be not helpful for their anxiety, for their intrusive thoughts, or for their depression. I have created an online meditation vault specifically for those who have anxiety and repetitive intrusive thoughts. My goal with this meditation vault is to make it very informative for the person who struggles with high expectations and rapid, repetitive intrusive thoughts, and I try to bring that concept into the meditations so they're specific for people with anxiety. There are over 28 meditations. There are specific meditations for people with OCD , health anxiety, social anxiety, panic, generalized anxiety, and depression. There are meditations on sleep, meditations on compassion , meditations on mindfulness, and meditations on strong emotions like guilt and shame. I did my best to pack them all into one specific place so that you have a wide range of guided meditations specifically for whatever it is that you need. There's even a meditation for people who don't want to meditate. I felt that that was really, really important. You can click the link in the show notes below if you're interested. You can also go to CBTSchool.com to get information about the vault. It is very low-cost. I want it to be low-cost so everyone can access it, and I'm so excited for you guys to check that out. How To Meditate To Reduce Anxiety If you are wondering how to meditate to reduce anxiety, there are things you need to remember as you practice meditation. Do not expect anxiety to magically disappear. Number one, if that were to happen, it probably wouldn't be for very long anyway. I want you to imagine this practice as the slow and steady growth of a muscle. If you were going to train at the gym, you wouldn't go straight in and pick up a hundred pounds right away. You would start low; 10, 15, maybe 10 to 12 and a half, then to 15, and you would slowly work your way up. You wouldn't have these expectations that your body would be able to pick up a hundred pounds at a time without pain afterwards. You would go in knowing that the cost of this is going to be that I may get pain if I overdo it, and I want you to think about that with your meditation practice as well. Not that you'll have pain, but that it's healthy to take baby steps and do it slowly and steadily. Another thing I want you to think about is, again, to think of this as an opportunity to change the way your brain responds to anxiety. Think of this as an opportunity to change how you respond to discomfort, how you act in your daily life, and how you can change your habits to benefit your mental health. How Long Does It Take For Meditation To Reduce Anxiety And Stress? Often, people will ask: how long does it take for meditation to reduce anxiety and stress? The answer here is very simple, which is, let's not put pressure on that to be the outcome. I know you came here to learn that exact answer, but the thing to remember here is, the more we resist anxiety, the more we want it to go away, the more we try and avoid it, the more we're feeding to our brain that it's dangerous and scary, and it will make our brain send out more stress hormones. We want to use meditation as an opportunity to train our brains that we are no longer going to run away from anxiety and stress. Instead, we're going to open up a space for anxiety and stress and have it be a safe place. Have our bodies and our minds be a safe place for anxiety to rise and fall. It's important that we understand that this, again, is an opportunity for you to change your specific emotional reaction to having anxiety and stress. Now that being said, I will still answer the question, which is, I think within time, you will probably see a very significant improvement. Most research shows that a short meditation practice of four to six weeks will significantly reduce people's stress and significantly improve people's relationship with their anxiety. I often say to my patients, give it 30 days. Go in with a solid commitment to practicing as often as you can for 30 days. Track your anxiety; maybe even put it on a scale from 1 to 10. If you're able to do it in this way, where you're not trying to get rid of anxiety but instead trying to make it a place where you can have anxiety and not respond with judgment, criticism, and resistance, you'll probably find that you'll have significantly reduced levels of anxiety and stress after 30 days. Now, again, I want to emphasize that there is significant research to show that meditation for stress is very beneficial. In fact, we've found that practicing meditation again downregulates your stress response. It reduces your nervous system's activity and reactivity to stressful events in your life and can greatly benefit your overall well-being. Definitely, if you're someone who's struggling with a very stressful time, and I think we all are given that the news is so, so painful right now, I think it's a beautiful opportunity for us to start a meditation practice. Another thing I want you to remember here is that by practicing meditation, you widen your window of tolerance. Now, what does this mean? I've talked about it on the podcast before. If your window of tolerance is very narrow, it means, as soon as you have any kind of strong emotion, strong experience, sensation, or pain in your body because you haven't practiced being able to tolerate that, you are very much more likely to rely on unhelpful safety behaviors to cope with that distress. In discomfort, as I mentioned, we actually widen our window of tolerance. The wider we can have this window of tolerance, the more likely we are to be regulated when we have a lot of emotions. We can be steady and really intentional in how we respond. We are more likely to act according to our values than according to our fears. So we want to practice widening that window of tolerance. There is so much benefit to doing that. Another thing to remember, and I've mentioned this already, but I think it's really important as we finish up, is to not put pressure on yourself to get this right. I will often say to clients, and I say it all the time in the meditation vault over and over again, expect anxiety to show up over and over again. Expect your mind to go off track and go off and think about the grocery list. Your job is to bring it back to the present moment. Don't be upset with your brain for going off track. That's its job. Its job is to be highly functioning and thinking about all the things. But the training and the benefit is that discipline to bring you back to the focal point that you're on right now, depending on the type of meditation that you're doing. I hope that you can practice letting meditation be messy, because it is. Even very, very skilled monks who practice meditation for hours a day still report that there are days when meditation is messy. There are days when your brain will be all over the place like that puppy dog, but with practice, you will start to see an improvement in your ability to be disciplined and intentional with where you put your attention, which again, as I mentioned, reduces the chances of you engaging in safety behaviors that aren't helpful, reduces the chances of you engaging in compulsions, and reduces your chances of going back down into those negative thought processes. There are so many benefits. The last thing I want you to remember is, as you begin this practice, be curious. Be open. Instead of being judgmental and rigid about what you think will happen, be curious about what might come from inquiring and moving into this practice. Meditation has changed my life. It has calmed me in the darkest hour. It has been there for me when I needed support, and I hadn't had anybody else to lean on. Meditation, as I mentioned, is a practice where you teach yourself to be a safe place for you to experience any emotion at all, and you know that it's there; you can take it with you wherever you're at. It costs nothing to practice meditation in the moment, and I hope that it's something that will bring you as much joy and as much wellness as it has for me. Have a wonderful day, everybody. As always, it is a beautiful day to do hard things. Again, if you're interested in the mindfulness meditation vault , you can click the link in the show notes. Have a wonderful day.