Dopey 534: Abbey Fickley Returns + Rest in Peace Ray the Clammer; Motherhood, Relapse, Internet Backlash… and 40 Years of Clamming, Cocaine, and Redemption

Episode Notes! DOPEYWOOD COMING! AWESOME EMAILS AND VOICEMAILS! ABBEY: Postpartum anxiety and getting prescribed benzos Her first time using heroin — in sober living Moving back to Pittsburgh with her dad to get her life together Building a YouTube following with her daughter Myla Dealing with fame, trolls, and the dark side of "sober influencer" culture Why she stopped posting her daughter online Setting boundaries in co-parenting The emotional side of recovery, relapse, and internet backlash Her evolving relationship with recovery, privacy, and motherhood 🦪 Part 2: Ray the Clammer – A Tribute Growing up on the South Shore, catching clams with his feet First time freebasing: “My heart exploded. I fell to my knees. It was great.” Ten years of coke dealing, freebasing, and losing everything Smoking away all the product, burning bridges, losing his union job Homeless in NYC, sleeping under Port Authority, working “security” for a pimp named Otis Suicidal thoughts in the subway tunnels The moment he didn't jump, and got back on the train to Long Island Brought home by police as a missing person Finds NA, relapses, gets honest — and stays sober from 1993 until his death Devoted to service: rides, hotlines, detox speaking, always showing up Passed away with 30 years clean — this recording was his goodbye gift to Dopey Nation Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.