About this episode
On the night of the 9th of Av, our ancestors cried tears of despair—tears the Talmud calls “ בכיה של חנם ” , baseless weeping. G-d’s response wasn’t punitive, it was prophetic: “You wept in vain, and this day will be one of tears for generations.” But what were they really crying about? And why do we still cry? This class explores the roots of generational trauma in the Jewish psyche, from the fear of the spies to the quiet despair echoing through the Jewish community today. We'll dive deep into the psychological and spiritual scars left by centuries of exile, oppression, and self-doubt and discover how fear can shape reality more powerfully than facts. Using Torah, Talmud, Chassidut, and modern psychological insight, we’ll unpack how vain tears become real sorrow—and how breaking the cycle starts with reclaiming our Divine power. From elephants in the circus to Harvard psychology experiments, this session will challenge you to reframe your internal narrative, discard inherited limitations, and begin the long-awaited journey from grief to redemption. KEY TAKEAWAYS: The Origin of Tisha B’Av: Understand the deeper meaning behind the “vain tears” of our ancestors and why this night became one of generational grief. Trauma as Inheritance: Discover how Jewish despair today is often rooted not in current events, but in stories, beliefs, and fears passed down through generations. The Self-Fulfilling Prophecy: Learn how our perception of self shapes our destiny—and why seeing ourselves as grasshoppers ensures others will too. From Powerlessness to Purpose: Gain tools to shift from victimhood to empowerment, and how G-d never asks us to face a challenge without first giving us the strength to overcome it. Healing the Diaspora Spirit: Explore how our generation can begin to break the cycle of inherited fear and transform Tisha B’Av into a festival of light. #TishaBav #VainTears #GenerationalTrauma #Bible #BibleStudy #spies #TorahLessons #TorahPortion #Torah #Devarim #Deutoronomy #inneregypt Support the show Got your own question for Rabbi Bernath? He can be reached at rabbi@jewishndg.com or http://www.theloverabbi.com Single? You can make a profile on www.JMontreal.com and Rabbi Bernath will help you find that special someone. Donate and support Rabbi Bernath’s work http://www.jewishndg.com/donate Follow Rabbi Bernath’s YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/user/ybernath Access Rabbi Bernath's Articles on Relationships https://medium.com/@loverabbi