Episodes

4d ago

It’s the last episode of 2025, so we’re keeping it casual and chaotic with a bit of silliness. In this episode: This month’s virtual munch live stream is this Friday, December 19 starting at... The post Answering 10 Silly Relationship Questions appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Dec 16

They’re in a long distance relationship and each have their own partners and lives to balance. They want to know how to have a playful power exchange when they can’t be together. Here’s the... The post Q&A: How Do We Maintain Playful D/s While LDR? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Dec 12

We made a goal to reconnect and become more intentional in our power exchange this year. Now that we’re near the end of the year, let’s talk about how it went! In this episode:... The post Our D/s Life in 2025 appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Dec 9

This week, we’re answering a question I (Kayla) couldn’t stop thinking about. We’re not sure if they asked in good faith or not, but we’re taking the question seriously. Here’s the question: Does any... The post Q&A: How is D/s Worth It if It’s So Difficult? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Dec 5

This week, we’re looking forward to 2026 to how to achieve some of the kink goals a lot of kinksters have (including us!). As always, you don’t have to wait for an arbitrary date... The post How to Achieve Your Kink Goals for 2026 appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Dec 2

Two kinksters have moved in together and things aren’t quite like what they expected. Here’s the question: I have been with my baby sub for about a year and up until the last five... The post Q&A: How Do We Find the Right Amount of Intimacy? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 24

This probably seems really random, but we’re bringing you a quick “commercial” break to let you know our podcast/live stream plans for the week of Thanksgiving 2025. We hope you can join us on... The post Last Minute Schedule Change appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 21

Even though YouTube doesn’t impact the podcast, what they do to our channel does impact our plans. That’s why this week’s episode is a bonus section episode, lol. In this episode: Join us for... The post Bonus Section Episode appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 17

A submissive works in the medical field and can’t wear her usual collar and wants to know what she can do instead. Here’s the question: I am a collared submissive to my Daddy. I... The post Q&A: What Can I Wear Instead of My Collar? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 14

Trying to figure out what “soft BDSM” even is took us on a journey. Let’s talk about it. In this episode: Our Holiday Cricket tier – and holiday party sign up – ends on... The post WTF is Soft BDSM? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 7

This week, we’re responding to situations shared on the kinky side of Reddit! In this episode: Join us through Patreon for a special holiday tier and get extra perks! Soft kink shaming Got dumped... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Oct 31

The idea of love maps comes from the Gottman Institute in their studies on relationships, specifically marriage. We wondered if it could be applied to power exchange, too. In this episode: Join us through... The post Love Maps and Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Oct 24

This week’s episode is from a question a kinkster sent to us. They wanted to know our take on power exchange, domestic discipline, and trad wives. In this episode: It’s the 5th Anniversary sale... The post Power Exchange vs Domestic Discipline vs Trad Wives appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Oct 20

This kinkster loves what they have with their boyfriend, but they’ve also discovered new desires that feel opposed to who they think they are. Here’s the question: I’m a poly woman with two long-term... The post Q&A: Should I Change Our Dynamic Even Though I’m Happy With What We Have? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Oct 17

In this week’s episode, I (Kayla) share a moment in kink where I realized I felt shame – which was a shock. Which brought me back to this conversation – the last time we... The post Dealing with Shame in Kink appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Oct 10

This week, we’re answering relationship questions from Therapy Jeff (again!) because we needed a chill, low-key episode, lol. In this episode: Check out the new version of the Kinkery! This week’s trans-affirming resource is... The post 10 Relationship Questions that Show You Really Know Your Partner appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Oct 3

This week, we’re answering questions you asked us over on IG at that handle Kayla hates. In this episode: Our Wednesday livestream will be at 3pm ET starting next week. This week’s trans-affirming care... The post Kinky Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Sep 26

The world is on fire, so let’s take a break with a BDSM Reddit episode! In this episode: We’re sharing trans-affirming resources each week because we can’t be the only ones who need this... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Sep 19

We had technical issues last week which kept us from recording this episode, but we’re back! (Technically with new technical problems but those don’t impact the podcast, lol.) This week, we’re giving updates from... The post What’s Changed in our D/s | Updates from Old Episodes appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Sep 5

This week, we look at some of the most recent viral trends that borrow from kink and ask, “Is kink becoming mainstream?” In this episode: Kinkery is having a Labor Day sale! Use code... The post Is Kink Being Normalized or Is It Just Going Viral? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Aug 29

After multiple weeks locked out of our own email inbox, we’re finally back in and celebrating by answering the questions that were waiting for us just like we would for our Monday Q&A episodes... The post Chaotically Answering Kink Questions from Our Inbox appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Aug 22

This week, we’re responding to questions and situations from the kinky side of Reddit. In this episode: There’s still time to enter the podcast anniversary giveaway. Can a Dom “take away” a safeword? My... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Aug 15

Somehow, someway, we’ve managed to keep the chaos going for exactly 10 years! In this week’s episode, we take a look at how we got here, then we do our “job” of helping folks... The post It’s Our 10th Podcast Anniversary! appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Aug 8

We’ve spent the past couple of months using the free version of the Obedience app, and now we’re ready to share how we’ve used it and how it’s helped us. Spoiler: We like the... The post Our Experience Using the Obedience App appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Aug 1

This week’s episode is a “ripped from the pages of our life” kind of topic. We recently had a long conversation where Kayla shared some of what she needs as a submissive, but JB... The post Our Uneven, Non-Linear Return to Our D/s Life appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jul 18

A non-kinky version of “princess treatment” has gone viral recently but when there were comparisons made to power exchange, we decided to learn more. Here’s what princess treatment is – according to the original... The post Princess Treatment vs Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jul 11

This week, we’re answering more Therapy Jeff questions – this time “unhinged” relationship questions. In this episode: Register for a free BDSM bootcamp: Jumpstart Your BDSM Journey Therapy Jeff is a therapist on IG... The post Answering 10 Unhinged Relationship Questions appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jul 4

All kink carries some level of risk but certain activities are known to be genuinely dangerous. Should kinksters who engage in these scenes – with full consent from both parties – be “allowed” to... The post Ethics and Responsibilities in High-Risk Kink Play appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jun 27

Thanks to Xetheriel aka X for this week’s topic. Let’s talk about how to incorporate kink into special occasions like birthdays, anniversaries, etc. In this episode: Thanks to X for this week’s topic. Spending... The post Adding Kink to Special Occasions appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jun 20

This week, we share – with each other and y’all – things we’ve figured out about ourselves that has changed over time. Not much to “learn” from this one other than that if you’ve... The post What We’re Still Learning About Each Other appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jun 13

We took an unscheduled break last week because Kayla got sick, but we’re back with a ranty BDSM Reddit response episode! In this episode: We’re on our new summer schedule. Subscribe to the Kinkery... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jun 2

This couple has been going through it for the past few years and have spent the past year in couples counseling, but they’re not where they were before. The submissive partner worries they may... The post Q&A: Am I Asking for Too Much From My Dominant? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

May 30

We’re back from an extra long break and we’re easing in by answering your kinky questions! In this episode: We’re starting our summer live stream schedule the first week of June – 7pm ET... The post Kinky Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM .

May 19

A submissive was introduced to BDSM by a former partner, but their relationship ended before any kinky exploration. Here’s the question: I met a Dom by accident on Tinder. He suggested I look into... The post Q&A: What Do I Do as a Newly Single But Inexperienced Sub? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

May 9

To us, the best way to be consistent in your power exchange – as a Dom or sub individually and together – is with a routine. In this episode, we’ll talk about the factors... The post How to Be Consistent in D/s | Making D/s Work in the Real World appeared first on Loving BDSM .

May 5

A switch who’s new to topping keeps apologizing when their partner expresses (consensual) pain. Here’s the question: I’ve recently discovered my Switch side and Impact Topped for the first time at a kink event... The post Q&A: How Do I Stop Apologizing While Topping? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

May 2

Whether you’re a parent (now or in the future) or you are a caregiver for an adult in your life (now or in the future), it’s going to impact your power exchange. This week,... The post D/s When You Take Care of Others | Making D/s Work in the Real World appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Apr 28

This submissive knows they need to move slowly into D/s but nothing’s happening at all. Here’s the question: I’m 28 and am just figuring out that I want/need a Dominant partner. I’ve been kind... The post Q&A: How Do I Convince My Dom That I’m Ready for More? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Apr 25

We’re continuing our real world series by talking about how to do power exchange things or experience your D/s vibe in ways that no one else is going to notice. In this episode: Join... The post D/s No One Else Will Notice | Making D/s Work in the Real World appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Apr 21

A submissive had to ask their partner to stop doing something twice, and now they worry it’s a red flag. Here’s the question: I am in a 3-year Daddy Dom D/s relationship with my... The post Q&A: Are These Unwanted Behaviors a Red Flag? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Apr 18

We’re starting a new series inspired by our session from the 2025 Dom/sub Dynamics Virtual Summit and diving deeper into how to make a power exchange relationship (and kink life) work in the real... The post Kink is Customizable | Making D/s Work in the Real World appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Apr 14

They tried non-monogamy in the past and it didn’t work, but they’d like to try again. Here’s the question: My Daddy and I have been together for almost 2 years now. We are 24/7... The post Q&A: How Will We Know We’re Ready to Try Nonmonogamy Again? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Apr 11

We had a topic all planned and then life threw us for a bit of a loop on a day when we were already exhausted. Since we want to do the topic justice, we... The post No Topic, Just Vibes | A Bonus Section Episode appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Apr 7

A submissive isn’t sure how to be there for their switchy Daddy Dom. Here’s the question: My partner and I are both relatively new to BDSM and kink and are in a Daddy Dom... The post Q&A: How Do I Provide Emotional Support to My Dom? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Apr 4

After multiple emails with the same question, it was time to talk about it. If you’re afraid to ask for “too much” in your dynamic or don’t think you deserve what you want, there... The post Afraid to Ask for “Too Much” in Your Dynamic appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Mar 31

A submissive is about to move in with their long distance partner. The submissive is new to sex and kink and has never done either. They have anxiety, and their partner has ADHD. And... The post Q&A: How Do I Navigate Being New to Sex and Kink appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Mar 28

This week’s BDSM Reddit response is a kinky version of “Am I the asshole?”! In this episode: You can still register for the Dom/sub Dynamics Virtual Summit! Horny grandma on OnlyFans Breaking up because... The post Kinky AITA appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Mar 24

A Domme wants to give their submissive what he wants – to call his partner Mommy – but it’s jarring to hear. Here’s the question: I stepped back into the BDSM lifestyle as a... The post Q&A: Is There a Way to Be Okay With Being Called Mommy or Daddy? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Mar 21

Thanks to multiple questions we received in a previous “ask us anything” episode, we’re devoting an entire episode to 24/7 D/s and total power exchange – are they the same thing or not? As... The post 24/7 D/s and Total Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Mar 17

A submissive knows they’re a people pleaser, but they also want to explore their bratty side. Here’s the question: I am a submissive who’s been exploring kink for a few years now. I have... The post Q&A: How Can a People Pleaser Explore Their Bratty Side? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Mar 14

This was a really hard episode to concisely explain in a title. We’re taking our own advice and starting low and slow when trying new things in our power exchange. In this case, we’re... The post Experimenting with Rules in Public appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Mar 10

A kinky couple wants to try consensual non-consent (CNC) and is looking for ideas and tips on the negotiation process. Here’s the question: I (f26) have been with my Dom (m33) for a little... The post Q&A: How Do We Negotiate Consensual Non-consent? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Mar 7

This week, we answer some of the kinky questions you asked us over on Instagram (at that handle that will be hated forever!). Links from the episode: Ask Your Questions Our mailing address is:... The post Kinky Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Mar 3

They’re thinking of moving in together and want to make sure they plan appropriately. Here’s the question: I am a newer submissive who’s in a LDR with a Daddy Dom. We have met several... The post Q&A: What Should We Negotiate and Decide Before We Move In Together? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Feb 28

Perimenopause can impact a person’s life for a decade or more, so of course it affects your power exchange relationship and kink life. And it’s past time to talk about it. In this episode:... The post Perimenopause and Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Feb 17

You’ll hear the audio skip during the intro – it was a problem we discovered after we recorded. The rest of the episode should be fine. They’ve renegotiated their power exchange and removed punishment,... The post Q&A: Is Punishment a Necessary Part of Power Exchange? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Feb 14

A lot of feelings come up when you’re getting back to the D/s relationship you want or reconfiguring it to work for your life now. For us, it’s been feelings of comfort (Kayla) and... The post Feelings of Comfort and Familiarity appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Feb 10

Content warning: mentions (but no descriptions) of sexual abuse and trauma in a past D/s relationship A submissive left an abusive power exchange relationship and has found a Dominant partner that makes them happy,... The post Q&A: How Do I Feel More Confident in Our Dynamic After Trauma? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Feb 7

We needed something lighthearted this week, so we’re taking a look at some of the silly little “arguments” we get into. In this episode: Our 2025 Patreon Membership Drive is still going on! Argument... The post Silly Conflicts in Our Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Feb 3

This week, a submissive can’t stop worrying about her partner’s previous sexual experience but her Dominant also worries he’s not giving her big enough orgasms. Here’s the question: My boyfriend and I have been... The post Q&A: How Do I Get Out of My Head During Sex? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jan 31

This week, we could use a cathartic rant or two, so we’re responding to the BDSM side of Reddit! In this episode: Join our kinky community during the 2025 Patreon Membership Drive and get... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jan 27

A submissive agreed to their partner “No” on agreed upon topics, but their partner reacts in a way that’s causing resentment. The submissive knows they need to talk but also knows their partner doesn’t... The post Q&A: How Do I Support a Partner Who Doesn’t Take Criticism Well? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jan 24

Obedience is a necessary part of submission, but it’s not experienced the same by all submissives – or their Dominant partners. In this episode: Patreon Membership Drive is still going on! Definition of obedience:... The post Obedience in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jan 20

A Dominant wants to support their submissive but they don’t know how to do that and maintain their D/s dynamic. Here’s the question: My wife has voiced interest in kink play. She is submissive... The post Q&A: How Do We Maintain Our D/s Dynamic? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jan 17

This week, we’re talking about the early days of reconnecting with our kinky selves – what it’s been like so far, how we got here, and more. In this episode: Join us this Friday,... The post Reconnecting With Our Kinky Identities appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jan 13

In this week’s episode, their partner is willing to top them but not be their Dominant. They also have conflicted feelings about their submission leading them to wonder if they’re really submissive at all.... The post Q&A: Am I Really Submissive? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jan 10

Taking a couple of weeks off was very good for us. It allowed us to rest and chill, but we also reflected on the state of our power exchange. We talked about what we... The post Getting Our D/s Life Back in 2025 appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jan 6

A sassy switch has a partner who pushes the boundaries as a brat, and they’re not sure how to handle potential broken rules. Here’s the question: My boyfriend (53m) and I (38 transmasc /... The post Q&A: What Happens If You Can’t Agree That a Sub Broke a Rule? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Dec 20, 2024

For the last podcast episode of the year, we’re looking back at the state of our power exchange for the year. The takeaway is that not a lot happened but we’ve learned a few... The post Looking Back at our D/s Relationship in 2024 appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Dec 16, 2024

This week, a plus size kinkster wants to let it all hang out at the dungeon, but not if they’ll be the only plus size person there. Here’s the question: I really want to... The post Q&A: Does the Kink Community Welcome All Body Types? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Dec 13, 2024

We’re keeping it light and easy (and also extremely personal, apparently) this week by answering more non-kinky relationship questions. In this episode: Get free shipping on orders $35+ thru December 15 at the Kinkery!... The post Answering More Vanilla Relationship Questions appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Dec 9, 2024

A submissive has needs that don’t fit naturally with what their Dominant enjoys and wonders how to find the right balance for both of them. Here’s the question: My Dom and I have been... The post Q&A: How Do We Find the Balance Between Our Power Exchange Needs? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Dec 6, 2024

The holidays are upon us (and they keep coming back every year) so let’s talk about how to get through some of the main parts of it that can impact your power exchange. In... The post Navigating the Holidays in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Dec 2, 2024

A Dominant provides the aftercare his submissive wants, but she’s always cranky the day after a scene. Here’s the question: My (41m/Dom) and my wife (42f/sub) have been married for four years and discovered... The post Q&A: Why is My Sub Irritable After a Scene? Is It Drop? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 29, 2024

Happy Thanksgiving! We responded (and ranted) to BDSM Reddit posts. In this episode: Black Friday sales The Kinkery – 25 percent off with code SPANKS24 Our Etsy shops – 25 percent off no code... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 25, 2024

This Dominant knows not to come on too strong when getting to know submissives, but some of them call him “Sir” from the very beginning, and he’s not sure if it’s a problem or... The post Q&A: Is It OK for Subs to Call Me Sir When We Meet? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 22, 2024

We asked Instagram to ask us anything and then opened up questions to the YouTube live chat during the stream. In this episode: All of our Etsy shops are on sale through the end... The post Kinky Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 18, 2024

A kinkster who’s been dealing with burnout, depression, and other personal stuff wonders how and when to bring up their mental health to a new partner. Here’s the question: My question is – as... The post Q&A: How Do I Talk About My Mental Health? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 15, 2024

Assertive gets conflated with bratting, demanding, and/or unsubmissive-like behavior. And we fundamentally disagree, so let’s talk about it. In this episode: All of our Etsy shops are on sale thru the rest of the... The post Assertive Submissives appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 4, 2024

A newish kinkster live in an area with a local kink community they’re not comfortable being part of and driving to another area isn’t an option. Here’s the question: What do I do when... The post Q&A: How Do I Handle Having a Bad Local Community? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 1, 2024

We didn’t know where this would go before we started other than saying, “Yes, Doms need to communicate effectively, too.” (Obviously.) JB shares his experiences as a Dom who has struggled to communicate in... The post Dominants and Communication appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Oct 28, 2024

In this week’s episode, a submissive wants to bring D/s out of the bedroom, but their Dom doesn’t seem motivated to try. Here’s the question: My husband (33m) and I (34f) have been together... The post Q&A: How Can I Motivate My Dom to Bring D/s Out of the Bedroom? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Oct 25, 2024

You’ve probably heard of new relationship energy (NRE) but we’re more interested in the idea of old relationship energy. So let’s talk about it. In this episode We’re celebrating the Kinkery’s 4th anniversary with... The post Old Relationship Energy in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Oct 18, 2024

We’re back and coming in hot with a BDSM Reddit response/reaction episode! In this episode: This week’s episode is sponsored by Flure, a welcome, inclusive, and kink-friendly dating app. There’s no episode next Monday.... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Oct 7, 2024

In this week’s episode, a kinky couple has gone through a few shifts in their relationship and now things are a little off. Can they go back to normal? Here’s the question: My sub... The post Q&A: Can We Go Back to Normal? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Oct 4, 2024

This week, we talk about the thing that anyone who’s ever had a D/s relationship knows…life will definitely interfere with your power exchange. In this episode, we talk about some of the most common... The post When Life Interferes with Your Power Exchange | Back to Basics Series appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Sep 30, 2024

A submissive isn’t having a good time during scenes with their nervous Domme — and is getting more and more frustrated. Here’s the question: Hello! So I’m in a relationship with a woman who... The post Q&A: How Do I Enjoy Scenes with a Nervous Domme? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Sep 27, 2024

We’ve been getting the same type of question recently…Where do I find a Dom? How do I find a submissive? So let’s talk about it this week. In this episode: Thanks to Flure for... The post Where to Find a Dominant or Submissive Partner | Back to Basics Series appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Sep 23, 2024

A kinkster wants to take things further with their partner – who isn’t interested in being a submissive. Here’s the question: My wife and I have been married for almost 20 years. We have... The post Q&A: Is It Okay to Enjoy Our Power Dynamic Without Labeling It? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Sep 20, 2024

You’ve figured out you’re kinky, met a partner (or talked to your current partner), and negotiated a power exchange. Yay! And also…there are a few challenges to be aware of as you navigate your... The post What to Watch Out for in New D/s Relationships | Back to Basics Series appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Sep 16, 2024

This week, we’re answering a question from a submissive who wants to get back to a more primal, CNC, sadomasochistic way of playing with their partner but old memories from another relationship are holding... The post Q&A: How Do I Move Past Bad Memories to Enjoy Old Kinks? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Sep 13, 2024

In the next episode of our Back to Basics series, we’re discussing consent in D/s relationships. In this episode: Get the Kink Bundle while it’s available! Check out the Loving BDSM Etsy shop. This... The post Consent in D/s Relationships | Back to Basics appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Sep 9, 2024

This week, a kinkster wants to get back into their local community but wants to avoid someone who seems to be an unsafe kinkster. Note: Content warning for brief mention of suicide, abusive behavior,... The post Q&A: Can I Avoid an Active Member in My Local Community? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Sep 6, 2024

We’re starting a new “back to basics” series for power exchange. The topics may be things we’ve talked about in the past, but with 400+ episodes, it’s probably been a while since we talked... The post Starting a New D/s Relationship | Back to Basics appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Sep 2, 2024

This week, a Daddy Dom worries that they aren’t being a good Dom because they promise fuckery at the end of the day and then change their mind. Here’s the question: Am I unreliable... The post Q&A: Am I an Unreliable Dominant? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Aug 30, 2024

We asked for your questions over at that handle we hate on Instagram, and you delivered! In this episode: The Kinkery is having a sale through Labor Day! JB’s vanilla Etsy shop “sponsored” us,... The post Kinky Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Aug 23, 2024

We’re a bit late to our own party, but we’re celebrating our 9th podcast anniversary! We’re sharing things we’ve learned, discovered, and figured out about ourselves and our power exchange relationship after nine years... The post Things We’ve Learned About Power Exchange in Nine Years of Podcasting appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Aug 19, 2024

This week, a kinkster is figuring out their switchy self but isn’t sure how to navigate wanting different things in different ways than their partner. Here’s the question: My husband and I have been... The post Q&A: Can We Be Switches in Different Ways and Still Have a Good D/s Relationship? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Aug 16, 2024

With great power comes great responsibility…or something like that. The weight of the responsibility a Dom carries can sometimes feel like pressure, so let’s talk about it. But it’s worth noting that the power... The post The Pressures and Privileges of Dominance appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Aug 12, 2024

After life got in the way, this kinky couple is ready to get back to their fuckery – including free use – but the Dominant partner isn’t initiating, even after plenty of communication. Here’s... The post Q&A: How Can My Dom Become Comfortable Initiating Free Use? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Aug 9, 2024

Anyone and everyone can experience imposter syndrome. While it’s most common in professional settings, it’s definitely possible in personal situations – like your kink life. In this episode: The Kinkery exists! What is imposter... The post Imposter Syndrome in Power Exchange and Kink appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jul 29, 2024

We’re willing to bet that this question comes up more than some Dominants are willing to admit. Here’s the full question: What should you do if you’re a dom who doesn’t want to take... The post Q&A: What If a Dom Doesn’t Always Want to Lead? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jul 26, 2024

This week, we react/respond to BDSM questions shared on the kinky side of Reddit. In this episode: Oh yeah, Kayla has a vanilla Etsy shop that’s book-themed. If you’re into that kind of thing.... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jul 22, 2024

A kinkster wants to know when the right time is to take things from dating apps or Fetlife to in person. Here’s the question: How do I know when to move from a dating... The post Q&A: When is the Right Time to Meet in Real Life? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jul 19, 2024

This week, we’re letting Therapy Jeff tell us what to talk about – by answering several “cute and spicy” relationship questions he posted about on Instagram (and probably TikTok too). In this episode: There’s... The post Answering Cute and Spicy Questions appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jul 15, 2024

A submissive has gone through a lot with their Dominant partner with consent violations, a broken D/s agreement, and just being made to feel awful. And they want to know if it’s possible to... The post Q&A: How Do I Trust My Dom Again? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jul 12, 2024

A moment when Kayla admitted wrongdoing has us thinking about the concept of “radical honesty” which potentially has a deeper meaning for kinksters in general. In this episode Register for the free and online... The post Radical Honesty in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jul 8, 2024

A submissive who was once the Dominant in their power exchange wants to add their Dom energy back to the dynamic but isn’t sure how to talk to their partner about it. Here’s the... The post Q&A: How Do I Tell My Partner I Want to Switch? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jul 5, 2024

External (extrinsic) motivation is about doing something because of outside expectations – your partner set a task, you were asked to do something, etc. It might be something you know needs to be done,... The post Needing External Motivation in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jun 21, 2024

We’ve experienced “task creep” – the act of taking on tasks/routines that weren’t specifically negotiated. Thankfully for us, we figured it out quickly and worked it out in a quick conversation. But like job... The post Task Creep in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jun 14, 2024

We don’t know how we’ve made it to 400 full-length episodes, either, but here we are! We didn’t get a lot of questions for this one, so we just sort of chatted until we... The post Celebrating 400 Episodes with Kinky Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jun 7, 2024

We’re one week away from our 400th episode, so we’re starting the celebration early with a BDSM Reddit response episode! In this episode: Ask your questions for our Monday episodes. We’re celebrating 10,000 subscribers... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM .

May 31, 2024

Most kinksters aren’t communicating too much, but some of us (like Kayla) could be, so let’s talk about it. In this episode: We need your questions for our Monday episodes. The most common issue... The post Over Communication in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

May 27, 2024

A submissive has a recurring issue about aftercare with their Dominant partner and wants to know: are they the problem or is it me? Here’s the question: I’ve been dating a dom for about... The post Q&A: Is My Dom the Problem or Am I? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

May 24, 2024

We joke about Kayla’s control issues, but they’re definitely a thing we both have to navigate in our power exchange. In this episode: We joke about Kayla’s control issues all the time. The stereotype... The post Submission With Control Issues appeared first on Loving BDSM .

May 20, 2024

This week, a submissive is ready to get back to their previous kink life but their partner might not be as ready. Here’s the question: I have a question with no easy answer. I... The post Q&A: How Do We Get Our Kink Life Back After Having a Baby? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

May 17, 2024

Hair pulling inspired this week’s episode – because it was a grounding and/or centering moment in kink. So let’s talk about it. In this episode: Friday night live stream on May 17 starting at... The post What Grounds or Centers You in Kink? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

May 13, 2024

A submissive needs more commands and strictness from their Dominant to feel the power exchange, but they’re not getting what they need. Here’s the question: My kind sadist seems to be under the impression... The post Q&A: How Do I Help My Dom Act More Commanding? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

May 10, 2024

Each partner has responsibilities to the other, to yourselves, and to the power exchange relationship. We’ve talked about this in the distant past, but it’s worth discussing again. In this episode: This week’s episode... The post Responsibilities to Your Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

May 6, 2024

This week, a kinkster asks if it’s time to let their kinky relationship go. Here’s the question: My BDSM relationship is disintegrating. I don’t know what to do. Other than let him go and... The post Q&A: Should I Just Let My BDSM Relationship End? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

May 3, 2024

This week we answer relationship questions that are supposed to make us feel “warm and fuzzy.” In this episode: Our Wednesday live streams are changing times starting May 8 from 12pm ET to 7pm... The post Answering Feel Good Relationship Questions appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Apr 29, 2024

This week, a submissive has been assigned the task of coming up with ideas for punishments and rewards in their new D/s relationship, and they’re not what to put on their list. Here’s the... The post Q&A: What Make Good Punishments and Rewards? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Apr 26, 2024

If Kayla Rants™ are one of your kinks, our BDSM Reddit episodes are made for you. In this week’s Reddit response, we talk about spanking “ugly” butts, learning to be a Dominant, soft limit... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Apr 22, 2024

This week’s question is something both of us have dealt with – and there aren’t any easy answers. Here’s the question: How do you handle family members and/or friends who disagree with your kink... The post Q&A: What Do I When People Reject Me For Being Kinky? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Apr 19, 2024

We didn’t have it in us to focus on a single topic, so this is a bonus section episode – rambly, pointless, and chaotic (on purpose!). If you prefer a topic-based discussion, feel free... The post A Bonus Section Episode appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Apr 15, 2024

A kinkster feels like they’re the only monogamous person in their local kink community, and it’s really bothering them. Here’s the question: I recently got involved with a local kink community, although I’ve been... The post Q&A: Are Most Kinky People Also Non-Monogamous? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Apr 12, 2024

This week’s topic came straight from a recent Patreon live stream where we were asked about how to be confident in a power exchange dynamic and within your kink identity. Here are our thoughts.... The post Building Confidence in D/s and Your Kink Identity appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Apr 8, 2024

We are so sorry for the sound quality on this episode. We knew we had issues with the video, but we didn’t realize the mics wouldn’t be picked up when we switched cameras. The... The post Q&A: What Kinky Lingerie Options Are Available for Big Breasts? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Apr 5, 2024

We are so sorry about the audio quality! We had tech issues for the live stream/video side of things and didn’t realize until afterwards that the fix for the video had caused our mics... The post Do Submissives Really Have All the Power in D/s? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Apr 1, 2024

A kinkster’s ex-spouse figured out they were kinky during the divorce, and it impacted the divorce decree. Now they want to introduce their sub but are worried about being found out later. Here’s the... The post How Do I Introduce My Kink Partner and Honor the Requirements of My Divorce? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Mar 29, 2024

We’re back from our break and answering some random relationship questions we found on Instagram! In this episode: Get your free ticket to the Dom/sub Dynamics Virtual Summit, April 8-11! Questions: What’s your favorite... The post Answering Random But “Deep” Relationship Questions appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Mar 18, 2024

A kinkster is part of their local community but still finds it difficult to make connections, especially with a possible long term partner. Here’s the question: I’ve been an active member of the community... The post Q&A: How Do I Connect With People in My Local Kink Community? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Mar 15, 2024

We’re going on break next week but before we do, we asked for your kinky hot takes and unpopular opinions over on Instagram! Here’s what we think… In this episode: We’re taking next week... The post Responding to Your Kinky Hot Takes and Unpopular Opinions appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Mar 11, 2024

A kinkster had a question about specific items they wanted to use in kink which gave us a great excuse to talk about pervertables in general! Here’s the question: I am on a budget.... The post Q&A: Will These Household Items Work as Pervertables? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Mar 8, 2024

For this week’s episode, we asked for your questions over on Instagram. In this episode: Check out our newest products on our Etsy shop! Disclaimer: Yes, we’re answering the questions that allow us to... The post Ask Us Anything! appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Mar 4, 2024

The person who submitted this question said it was complex, and they weren’t wrong. Here’s the question: I have a question on how to handle loyalty conflicts in complex situations. I live in Europe,... The post Q&A: How Do I Navigate a Complex Poly and Kink Relationship with Two Partners? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Mar 1, 2024

This week’s episode isn’t meant to be a continuation of the pleasure Dom discussion from last week – though it seems that way. Instead it’s a reminder to (too many) kinksters that yes, submissives... The post Submission and Pleasure appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Feb 26, 2024

This week’s question comes from a submissive who’s getting their desire for kink and sex back but doesn’t want to feel like they’re telling their Dom what to do. Here’s the question: I (31F... The post Q&A: How Do I Let My Dom Know I’m Ready for Sex and Kink Without Feeling Like I’m Initiating Play? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Feb 23, 2024

Pleasure Dominant is a relatively new term, probably born from the internet, but what does it even mean? Let’s talk about it. In this episode: New products available on our Etsy shop! Disclaimer: Regardless... The post What is a Pleasure Dom? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Feb 19, 2024

This week’s question comes from a submissive who wants to be told what to do in power exchange, but their Dominant can’t handle the mental load. Here’s the question: I ask my Dom, “What... The post What Do I Do When My Dominant Can’t Handle the Mental Load? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Feb 16, 2024

It’s been too long since we’ve responded to the BDSM side of Reddit, so here we are! In this episode: We’re live streaming on Friday, February 16 at 9:30pm ET. Help kinksters in Atlanta... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Feb 12, 2024

A kinkster wants to be their most authentic self with a close friend but isn’t sure it’s working. Here’s the question: I am currently struggling in a friendship and wondered if yall had any... The post Q&A: Can I Be My Authentic Kinky Self With a Vanilla Friend? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Feb 9, 2024

Think of this like a “state of the union” but for a D/s relationship – specifically ours. In this episode: One week left of our Patreon membership drive! Thanks to Beducated for sponsoring this... The post The State of Our Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Feb 5, 2024

In this week’s question, a kinkster wants to explore their Dominant side and wonders if they can use that to work through their anger. Here’s the question: I’m a submissive but I may be... The post Q&A: Is Anger Part of Dominance? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Feb 2, 2024

We’ve talked about age differences in D/s relationships before, but this time, let’s discuss the perception/belief that “all” age gaps are bad or predatory, and why we (mostly) disagree. In this episode: Sales at... The post Age Gaps in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jan 29, 2024

In this week’s question, a submissive asks how they can keep things going in their D/s even while apart. Here’s the question: How can I make the most out of my long distance D/s... The post Q&A: How Do We Make the Most of Our LDR? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jan 26, 2024

This week’s episode was inspired by a conversation we recently had about how we behave and act as Dom and sub and how that doesn’t always match the way we’d like to behave and... The post How We Show Up in Our D/s Relationship appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jan 19, 2024

There’s no episode this week because JB got sick and needed to rest. As of the day this commercial-like episode goes live, he’s feeling a bit better and is moving around a bit. Normally... The post A Commercial Break Ramble appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jan 15, 2024

In this week’s question, this couple asks a question that a lot of kinksters have gone through — how to go from a vanilla relationship to a D/s relationship? Here’s the question: My husband... The post How Do We Renegotiate Our Marriage For D/s? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jan 12, 2024

When we started researching this episode, we thought it would just be on the concept of sexual free use in power exchange. But there was so much more that we had to talk about... The post Free Use and Blanket Consent in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jan 8, 2024

In this week’s episode, we answer a question from a submissive who wants punishment outside of a fun, sexual moment but doesn’t know how to get it. Here’s the question: I’m in a wlw... The post Q&A: How Do I Get Kinky Punishment Without Sex? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jan 5, 2024

In what seems to be a new tradition, we’re sharing our plans and goals for 2024 and reviewing our goals from 2023. In this episode: Join us on Patreon! Going over our 2023 goals... The post Our 2024 Kinky Goals and Plans appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Dec 18, 2023

In this week’s episode, a Dominant worries their submissive expects certain rules due to their past trauma and not because of the dynamic, and they don’t know how to stop worrying. Here’s the question:... The post Q&A: Is This Past Trauma or a New Beginning for My Submissive? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Dec 15, 2023

This week, on our way out for a two week break, we’re doing the last BDSM Reddit response episode of 2023! There be rants ahead… In this episode: We’re going live Friday, December 15... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Dec 11, 2023

In this week’s episode, someone asks how to negotiate with someone who doesn’t even really know if they like kink yet. Here’s the question: Hey long time listener enjoying most of your long ones... The post How Do I Negotiate When They Want to Experiment With Kink? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Dec 8, 2023

We’re back for another BDSM in the news episode, talking about articles we’ve come across that focuses on or mentions kink in some way. These articles have been included in recent newsletters, and we... The post BDSM in the News appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Dec 4, 2023

In this week’s Q&A episode, a submissive likes the positive reinforcement of rewards in their dynamic, but they don’t feel like they’re getting enough or the right kind they want and need. Here’s the... The post Can a Submissive Negotiate Their Rewards? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Dec 1, 2023

We were inspired by Therapy Jeff on Instagram again and decided to answer questions he advises people to ask to figure out how well they know their partner. In this episode: Join us on... The post How Well Do We Know Each Other | Answering Relationship Questions appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 27, 2023

In this week’s Q&A episode, a submissive can’t wrap their mind around the kinky scene their Dom wants. Here’s the question: What to do when your Dom brings up a kink that is not... The post What Do I Do When My Dominant Wants Something Silly? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 24, 2023

Things happened this week that derailed the podcast a bit – plus we’re getting ready for Black Friday for our shop(s) – so we kept it simple for ourselves with a bonus section episode.... The post Pure Randomness | A Bonus Section Episode appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 17, 2023

Even if your kink life and/or power exchange relationship feel natural and good, that doesn’t mean it’ll always be easy. On the other hand, sometimes the parts you thought would be the most difficult... The post What We Find Easy and Hard About Kink appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 13, 2023

This week’s question takes a turn from where you think it’s going based on the title. They were in a long distance D/s relationship for six years. Once they moved in together, all the... The post How Can We Have the D/s We Planned While We Were LDR? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 10, 2023

We’re back for another look at what certain terms (that you may or may not have heard of before) mean and how we feel about them. This time, we’re talking about brat tamer and... The post Brat Tamer vs Brat Handler appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 6, 2023

This week’s question is similar to a previous episode about how a submissive gets their needs fulfilled. But in this situation, this isn’t about preventing it from happening but figuring out what to do... The post What Do I Do When My Dom Leaves Me Hanging? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 3, 2023

We celebrated our wedding anniversary on October 28, and that particular milestone got me thinking about how much we’ve both grown and changed over the years. This week’s episode is all about what changes... The post Changes We See In Each Other After a Decade appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Oct 27, 2023

Yes, another one, lol. But we promise we have a very good reason. JB is under the weather, but insisted on recording, so we needed something easy to talk about. Ranting over the antics... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Oct 23, 2023

This week, we’re talking about something that might be more common than you think — needing to plan and schedule your kink scenes but feeling like that kills the spontaneity. Here’s the question: How... The post How Do I Get More Kinky Fun When I Hate Planning For It? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Oct 20, 2023

Buckle up, y’all, this episode is a ranty one. Too many times we’ve heard, “Relationships are hard!” But we don’t believe they’re meant to be hard. Instead, they require effort and sometimes hard work.... The post The Difference Between Power Exchange Relationships Being Hard vs Requiring Effort appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Oct 16, 2023

This week, we answer a question that a lot of submissives have at some point in their kink life — how to get your own needs fulfilled while fulfilling your Dominant’s needs, too. Here’s... The post How Do I Make Sure My Submissive Needs Are Fulfilled? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Oct 13, 2023

I (Kayla) am often in a silly, goofy mood, and thankfully JB either is or will play along. So let’s talk about it from a power exchange perspective. In this episode There are several... The post Silliness and Playfulness in D/s Relationships appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Oct 9, 2023

It’s our first Q&A episode! These will be short episodes that focus on a single question that we’ll answer with our D/s perspective. Here’s the question we received: “I recently got out of a... The post How Can I Be Vulnerable With New Dom After Bad Vanilla Break-up? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Oct 6, 2023

This week, we’re talking about the results of a “survey/study” we received from Kinky Cloth. They used Google search data to figure out the kinkiest states in the US, as well as the most... The post Top 10 Kinkiest States, Sex Toys, and Fetishes appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Sep 29, 2023

Another week, another BDSM Reddit response episode — and this one has some heavy topics. Including one that comes with a content warning. If that section is something you want to avoid, skip ahead... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Sep 22, 2023

This week’s episode is brought to you by our own personal stressors and more inspiration from Therapy Jeff! We’ve mentioned in the past that – when you can – it can be helpful to... The post Navigating Stress Before It Happens in D/s Relationships appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Sep 15, 2023

After an unplanned week off, we’re back with a topic that we know too many people have faced — breadcrumbing. We’re talking about what it is, what it can look like in power exchange... The post Breadcrumbing vs Doing the Little Things in D/s Relationships appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Sep 1, 2023

Thanks to Hurricane Idalia, we were a little out of sorts this week. The storm missed us, thankfully, but our heads weren’t in it, so we turned this week into a bonus section/random episode... The post A Random Episode appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Aug 25, 2023

We let y’all help us out over on Instagram this week and asked for kinky hot takes and unpopular opinions. We’re also celebrating our 8th podcast anniversary with a huge giveaway! That part took... The post Responding to Kinky Hot Takes and Unpopular Opinions appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Aug 18, 2023

Those of a certain age might recognize that line. It’s from En Vogue’s My Lovin’ (You’re Never Gonna Get It). “Never gonna get it, never gonna get it!” If that song is in your... The post And Now for a Break(Down) appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Aug 11, 2023

This week, before we take a week off, we’re answering you asked over at the handle I will forever fucking hate on Instagram! In this episode: We’re on a break next week. We have... The post BDSM Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Aug 4, 2023

This week, we’re responding to BDSM questions and situations kinksters have shared on the BDSM side of Reddit! In this episode: Join our kinky community on Patreon! Submissive who doesn’t want to follow rules... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jul 28, 2023

This week, we’re answering more non-kinky relationship questions. These came from a marriage coach on Instagram who labeled these questions as conversation starters to deepen your connection. We’ll see about that, lol. In this... The post Answering More Non-Kinky Relationship Questions appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jul 21, 2023

Pay attention to the air quotes because in this conversation, we had serious questions about this list. Joy Love Dolls compiled a list of the “most popular” kinks and fetishes using Google search data,... The post Most “Popular” Kinks and Fetishes appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jul 14, 2023

Back in January we talked about how we’d started an OnlyFans page for our kinky fuckery and mentioned we might do a six-month update. Well, here it is! In this episode: Consider this episode... The post Our Kink Life on OnlyFans appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jul 7, 2023

The real question is: Should D/s relationships be 50/50? We have definite opinions on this one. In this episode: Subscribe to our weekly newsletter and get a free BDSM checklist! This week’s episode was... The post Are D/s Relationships 50/50? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jun 30, 2023

In this week’s podcast episode, we’re focusing on the positive and looking at how kink and power exchange have improved our lives – both as individuals and as a couple. In this episode: We... The post How D/s Has Improved Our Lives appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jun 23, 2023

We thought this was a “No thoughts, just vibes” kind of episode – because we didn’t have the energy to focus on a topic and there’s just been a lot going on lately. And... The post Bonus Section Episode appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jun 16, 2023

This week, we’re talking about the mental load each partner carries in power exchange. It’s a topic that touches on a lot of previous conversations: decision fatigue, burnout, the need for self-care, and on... The post Mental Load in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jun 9, 2023

We’re baaaaa-aaaaaack! Our break was good but now we want to have a bit of fun, so let’s respond to kinky situations shared on Reddit! In this episode: Try out our Patreon free for... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM .

May 19, 2023

We’re back with another episode where we answer relationship questions we found online. These questions are meant to help partners get back in touch with how much they love each other. And we found... The post Answering Relationship Questions to Reconnect appeared first on Loving BDSM .

May 12, 2023

We’re hitting a lot of milestones after 10 years in a D/s relationship. One we didn’t expect is that how we’re negotiating parts of our dynamic has changed. Here’s what that looks like for... The post How Our D/s Negotiations Have Changed Over Time appeared first on Loving BDSM .

May 5, 2023

We’re trying something new, and it’s based off of our weekly newsletter. Each week, we include a section called BDSM in the News and share articles Kayla finds about BDSM and kink. Some are... The post BDSM in the News appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Apr 28, 2023

Procrastination shows up in so many parts of our lives. Does that include our D/s relationships and kinky fuckery? Let’s talk about it! In this episode: Check out the kink resources we recommend including... The post Procrastination in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Apr 21, 2023

Ever feel like you could not make one more decision! As a Dom or a sub? Us too. So let’s talk about it! In this episode: We do all the things! Links below, lol.... The post Decision Fatigue in D/s Relationships appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Apr 14, 2023

We’re back with another BDSM Reddit response episode! Thanks to silentwinged who sent us a few questions to look at plus we found a couple on our own. One had Kayla’s blood boiling and... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Apr 7, 2023

We’re back with a Q&A episode! We asked for questions over on that handle Kayla fucking hates on Instagram and then took questions from the YouTube live stream. In this episode: Join us on... The post BDSM Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Mar 31, 2023

This week, things get a bit heavy as we discuss our (ongoing) experiences with depression as a Dom and sub in a power exchange relationship. We don’t get into too many details but if... The post Our Experience with D/s and Depression appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Mar 24, 2023

A post on Reddit got us talking about topping from the bottom…seven years after the first time we talked about it! While a lot of the sentiments are the same, this is a different... The post Topping from the Bottom | Revisiting Old Episodes appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Mar 10, 2023

We’re using quotes in the title for a reason, y’all! Is the Bible Belt kinkier than most people probably realize? Absolutely! Does this survey prove that? Ehhhhhh….let’s talk about it. In this episode We... The post Survey “Reveals” How Kinky the Bible Belt Is appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Mar 3, 2023

In this week’s episode, we’re taking a question we received in a previous Q&A and expanding it to a full conversation. The question: How do I figure out my kink style and identity? These... The post Figuring Out Your Kinky Self appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Feb 24, 2023

We’ve discussed aspects of sensation play – pain, wax, electroplay – many times in the past, but we’ve never discussed the broader topic of sensation play. Until now! Is this fully comprehensive? Of course... The post Sensation Play appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Feb 17, 2023

In this week’s episode, we take “silly but serious” questions posed by a therapist on social media and answer them from the perspective of our long-term D/s relationship. In this episode: Register for the... The post Answering Silly But Serious Relationship Questions appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Feb 10, 2023

We needed an easy one this week – as we’re both still recovering from being sick – so we went with a response to questions asked on the BDSM side of Reddit. In this... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jan 27, 2023

This week’s episode is similar to other episodes in the archive but with a twist. Yes, we’re talking about what we’ve learned over the years but with a focus on how we’ve changed and,... The post How We’ve Evolved in BDSM and D/s appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jan 20, 2023

JB said he wanted to stream/record but that, and he wasn’t “firing on all cylinders.” So we turned this week’s into a big (to us) announcement and a bonus section episode. In this episode:... The post Bonus Section Episode appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jan 13, 2023

We’ve teased this topic over the past several weeks, and we’re finally getting to it – the division of labor in your home and family while you also try to live your best D/s... The post Division of Labor in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jan 6, 2023

It’s the first episode of 2023 so we’re sharing our personal and professional goals and plans for the year! This episode actually focuses more on the personal side – both as individuals and our... The post Our 2023 Plans and Goals appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Dec 16, 2022

For this last episode before we take a couple of weeks off, we’re responding to questions and situations shared on the BDSM side of Reddit. And yes, there are rants in this one. In... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Dec 9, 2022

We asked for your questions over at that handle we fucking hate on Instagram, and y’all delivered! We got so many we couldn’t answer them all! If you have BDSM-related questions for us, we... The post BDSM Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Dec 2, 2022

Ten years ago from the time we recorded this week’s episode, we were “meeting” each other through blog comments. On December 23, it will be ten years since our first conversation. Next year, we’ll... The post What We’ve Learned After a Decade Together appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 25, 2022

It’s that time of year again — time to talk about the sex toys we’ve loved this year, plus some Black Friday sales and specials. Because no one should pay full price for fuckery,... The post Our Favorite Sex Toys of 2022 appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 18, 2022

This week is a bit different but something we’ve wanted to do a while. Our dear friend, Professor Sex, finished their thesis several months ago and generously allowed us to discuss their work on... The post Research on Kink Behavior vs. Kink Identity appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 11, 2022

The topic of toxic masculinity — in power exchange and kink or not — is a huge one. But as with all of these conversations, we have to start somewhere. In this week’s episode,... The post Toxic Masculinity in Power Exchange | A Dominant’s Perspective appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 4, 2022

Spoiler: This episode is about sex, and it’s a TMI episode about the two of us, our sexual fantasies, turn-ons, and more. If that’s more than you want to hear, feel free to skip... The post Answering Spicy Questions appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Oct 28, 2022

We mentioned something in last week’s episode on people-pleasing — about needing to talk to JB about a stressor Kayla tried to handle alone — and it got us thinking about the things we... The post Sharing Burdens in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Oct 21, 2022

People pleasing happens for a lot of reasons, and it manifests in a lot of ways. We’re talking about it this week, specifically as it relates to power exchange and D/s, based (primarily) on... The post People Pleasing in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Oct 14, 2022

We’ve talked about intimacy before — link below — but this time, a post on Instagram gave me (Kayla) some specific examples of intimacy beyond the obvious. Also, yes, this is a solo episode... The post Different Types of Intimacy in Kink appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Sep 30, 2022

This week’s episode was recorded while we waited for Hurricane Ian, so it’s more chaotic than usual. Also, we took help from kinksters over on Instagram. We asked, “What do you wish people (including... The post What Kinksters Want Others to Stop Getting Wrong About Kink appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Sep 16, 2022

This week, we’re reacting (or responding) to the BDSM questions asked on Reddit! In this episode: Live Stream/Virtual Munch this Friday, September 16! We’re taking next week off. Reacting/responding to BDSM questions from Reddit... The post BDSM Reddit Reaction appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Sep 9, 2022

This week, we answered listener questions about a variety of topics: masochism, kinky bucket lists, non-monogamy, and more! In this episode: Our first scene experience Where are all the middles? How do we deal... The post BDSM Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Sep 2, 2022

This week, let’s talk about voice kinks: what are they and do we have any? In this episode: Defining voice kinks What we like about voices Do we have a voice kink? Thanks to... The post Voice Kinks appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Aug 26, 2022

This week, we’re talking about anger, upset, and other negative feelings specifically in terms of submission. How do you submit when you’re angry at your Dom? The answer is…it depends. In this episode: Want... The post Submitting While Angry or Upset appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Aug 19, 2022

This week, we get personal — more than usual — and have a formal check-in of our D/s relationship. We tend to do this on a frequent and casual basis, bringing up concerns or... The post Checking in on Our D/s Relationship appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Aug 12, 2022

In this week’s podcast, we discuss the term “service top” — and there are a lot of ways to define it! In this episode: Multiple definitions of service top What it means to us... The post What is a Service Top? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Aug 5, 2022

We (kind of) get where this question comes from — submissives are seen to bend to the will of their Dominant partner, submissive training and behavior modification are tools used in some D/s relationships.... The post Does a Submissive Have to Change in D/s? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jul 29, 2022

In this week’s episode, we took questions from Instagram and then from the YouTube live chat. Plus, the bonus section actually has bonus content about our power exchange. (Proving miracles can happen.) In this... The post BDSM Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jul 22, 2022

We’re back with another BDSM Reddit reaction episode! And for once, the answer to all of these posts was something other than, “Talk to your partner!” In this episode: Why the podcast was late... The post BDSM Reddit Reaction appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jul 19, 2022

A term keeps popping up in Kayla’s feeds: conscious kink. But what does that even mean? Is it a new way of thinking about BDSM or is it a catch-all term used in marketing?... The post What is Conscious Kink? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jul 8, 2022

It might seem like a random topic but the joy we’ve felt (at times) in our power exchange is so powerful and amazing that it’s important to acknowledge. And also, we can’t be the... The post Joy in D/s Relationships appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jul 1, 2022

In this week’s episode, we talk about the label “alpha sub” — how it was defined when we first heard of it and what it means to many people today. In this episode: Thanks... The post What is an Alpha Sub? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jun 17, 2022

John Brownstone posed an interesting question when thinking about power exchange relationships and new potential partners: What do you bring to the table as a kinkster and just as a person? So that’s what... The post What Do You Bring to the Table? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jun 10, 2022

A listener sent us a question about telling the difference between love bombing and being an eager caregiver type with new relationship energy (NRE). We decided to talk about love bombing, ideas for figuring... The post Love Bombing and Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jun 3, 2022

This week, we’re revisiting a topic we talked about back in 2019: teamwork in power exchange. The conversation focuses on a book we recently read specifically on the idea of having a dynamic built... The post Collaboration and Teamwork appeared first on Loving BDSM .

May 31, 2022

Not every power exchange relationship needs (or wants!) an element of discipline, punishment, and consequences. But for those who do, there are a lot of things to keep in mind. This week, we’re sharing... The post Minisode 56: Punishment Tips appeared first on Loving BDSM .

May 27, 2022

This week we’re talking about something near and dear to our experience — perfectionism, and how it can impact your power exchange relationship and you as a kinkster, regardless of your role. In this... The post Perfectionism in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

May 20, 2022

We’re baaaaa-aaaaaack…and we’re trying to get back into a groove, both for the podcast and in our D/s relationship. This week’s episode is more like a giant bonus section with updates about where we’ve... The post Getting Back Into a Groove appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Apr 15, 2022

As you may know, JB has been pulled away from home and work to help take care of his ailing mom. It means he’s not at home as much, and he’s under a lot... The post Our Power Exchange During Times of Stress appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Apr 5, 2022

Subspace is just one experience submissives can have during a kink scene. As we’ve discussed before, subspace isn’t a guarantee for every scene, and some people may never even get there. So let’s talk... The post Minisode 55: Beyond Subspace appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Apr 1, 2022

We’re back with another response (reaction?) to questions asked over on the BDSM side of Reddit. In this episode: This week’s episode is sponsored by Beducated. Answering questions on BDSM reddit. Thanks to our... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Mar 29, 2022

This week, we’re sharing the audio version of a video we made recently on a few things to remember about consent in your power exchange relationship. Most (all?) of it will be familiar because... The post Minisode 54: Consent in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Mar 22, 2022

We love a good process that we can (mostly) repeat over and over again. Yes, even in kink and for new kinky fuckery. This week, we’re sharing what we do when we’re ready to... The post Minisode 53: Trying New Kinks Together appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Mar 11, 2022

This week we asked for your kinky questions over on Instagram (at that handle I will forever fucking hate) and in the live chat on YouTube while we recorded. In this episode: This week’s... The post BDSM Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Mar 8, 2022

Too many kinksters chase subspace and then feel disappointed after their scene. Not because it didn’t go well but because they didn’t undergo a bio-chemical reaction that they had absolutely no control over. So... The post Minisode 52: Subspace appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Mar 4, 2022

This week, we’re going back in the archive to episode 6 where we talked about how we made the switch to DD/lg (Daddy Dom/little girl). This time, we’re asking ourselves – is that who... The post Are We Still DD/lg? | Revisiting Old Episodes appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Mar 1, 2022

New to the idea of electroplay? Like all other kinks, you need to learn about it before you try it – especially the risks. Here are a few things to keep in mind as... The post Minisode 51: Electroplay Basics and Safety Tips appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Feb 25, 2022

Towards the end of 2021, we both admitted to each other we were starting to feel burnt out – in our power exchange! While our relationship wasn’t the source of the burnout, it could... The post Burnout in Power Exchange and Kink appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Feb 22, 2022

For the big 5-0, we decided to talk about one of our favorite things in kink – impact play. Specifically, we’re sharing different types of toys we absolutely love to use for impact play!... The post Minisode 50: Our Favorite Impact Play Toys appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Feb 18, 2022

This week, we’re talking about our experience during Kayla’s recovery from surgery – a time when she wasn’t able to be her service submissive self in her usual way. We share how we both... The post When a Service Submissive Can’t Serve appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Feb 15, 2022

Too many people still ask, “Can you have a power exchange relationship and be a parent?” To that, we say, “YES!” As with all things parenting, compromises have to be made, but in our... The post Minisode 49: Tips for Balancing Kink and Parenting appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Feb 11, 2022

This week, we celebrate a major podcasting milestone – 300 episodes of our Friday conversations. So this week we’re reflecting on what we’ve learned – about BDSM, about talking about BDSM, and about ourselves.... The post What We’ve Learned After 300 Kinky Conversations appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Feb 8, 2022

JB is a sadist and Kayla is a masochist, and it’s something we talk about in a lot of contexts. In this week’s mini episode, we’re sharing a few things we want people to... The post Minisode 48: Sadism and Masochism appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Feb 4, 2022

Not only is this episode filled with Kayla Rants™, there’s also the rare sighting of a JB Rant™! In this episode: The Patreon Membership Drive continues through February 15 Thanks to silentwinged for sending... The post BDSM Reddit Reaction appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Feb 1, 2022

We’ve talked about red flags that Doms show and red flags from submissives, but what about red flags in power exchange, regardless of the role? This week, we share a few that we tend... The post Minisode 47: Red Flags in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jan 28, 2022

This week, we’re taking a look at two newish-to-us terms – hard dom and soft dom. What do they mean and what do we think about them as terms? In this episode: The Patreon... The post Hard Doms vs Soft Doms appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jan 25, 2022

Forced orgasms are our jam around here, and we love a good vibrator to help us both out. In this minisode we share a few of our favorite toys and why they’re our favorites.... The post Minisode 46: Our Favorite Vibrators for Forced Orgasms appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jan 21, 2022

This week, we’re re-visiting episode five from the archives. In that episode, Kayla answered common submissive questions regarding bad behavior that all seemed to end in, “Is this okay?” and “Is this normal?” This... The post Questioning Whether Bad Kinky Behavior is “Normal” | Revisiting Episode 5 appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jan 18, 2022

All BDSM carries risk. Some is a little, some is a lot. And it’s easy to ignore the risks when you’re focused on fulfilling a fantasy, finally experiencing a power exchange, or exploring new... The post Minisode 45: BDSM Safety Tips appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jan 14, 2022

In this week’s episode, we share our 2022 goals and how our power exchange impacts our goals and why we think goals are important. In this episode: Thanks to Beducated for sponsoring! Use code... The post Sharing Our 2022 Goals appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jan 7, 2022

We’re baaaa-aaaaack! But we’re not fully operational yet, lol. Instead of skipping this week, we turned this episode into a giant bonus section. If you only want the kink tips, help, and information, feel... The post One Big Bonus Section appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jan 4, 2022

We don’t make New Year’s Resolutions, but we do like to set new goals at the beginning of the year. In this week’s minisode, we share tips on how to set and reach your... The post Minisode 44: Tips for Setting Kinky Goals appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Dec 17, 2021

It’s the last podcast episode of 2021 so we turned it into a Q&A! Enjoy! PS: We were also extremely chaotic – more so than usual. You’ve been warned. In this episode: Kinky Book... The post BDSM Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Dec 14, 2021

New to impact play? Just starting to explore spankings and beyond? Here are a few tips to keep in mind! A massive thanks to our Patreon community for making these shorter episodes possible! Links... The post Minisode 43: Impact Play Tips for Newbies appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Dec 10, 2021

In our third episode, Kayla shared a some characteristics on what makes someone a good Dominant. We revamped the list, slightly, for a YouTube video in 2021. But we’ve never really had the conversation... The post Good Doms | Revisiting Episode 3 appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Dec 7, 2021

Not everyone cares if people know they’re kinky. Not everyone visits with vanilla friends and family during the holidays. But if you do care and you will be spending the holidays with non-kinksters, we’re... The post Minisode 42: Tips for Surviving Holiday Visits with Vanilla Family and Friends appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Dec 3, 2021

We have a lot of fun with these BDSM Reddit episodes, and if you enjoy Kayla-Rants™, you probably do, too. This week, we talk about toxic behavior, unionizing submissives, and more! In this episode:... The post Responding to BDSM Reddit…Again appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 30, 2021

Whether it’s sub drop or top drop, it can happen to anyone. Here are a few things to keep in if you find yourself going through it. A massive thanks to our Patreon community... The post Minisode 41: Drop appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 26, 2021

Another Black Friday, another list of sex toys and kinky gear we love and recommend! All the links to everything we’ve mentioned are down below! Kink up your holidays with something fun and new!... The post Our Favorite Sex Toys of 2021 appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 23, 2021

We’re trying something new this week, y’all: BDSM book recommendations on the podcast! If you like this and want more recs, let us know. A massive thanks to our Patreon community for making these... The post Minisode 40: 3 BDSM Book Recommendations appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 19, 2021

We’re continuing with the exercise of revisiting old episodes from the archive from before we had lengthy conversations about kinky topics. This week, we’re rehashing the second episode which was all about helping nervous... The post Revisiting Episode 2: How to Talk to Your Dominant appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 17, 2021

In this week’s minisode, we share a few tips, tricks, and truths we’ve learned about negotiation in power exchange. Simply put, negotiation is a way to communicate your needs, get consent, and figure out... The post Minisode 39: Negotiation Tips appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 12, 2021

We’ve mentioned the concept of kink-shaming in many episodes, but we’ve never really focused on it as a topic. So let’s do that now! In this episode: According to Brene Brown, shame grows with... The post Kink-Shaming appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 9, 2021

Truthfully, there are as many ways to be a submissive as there are submissives in the world. But in trying to define submission, we broke it down into three ideas. These are the broad... The post Minisode 38: What Does It Mean to Be Submissive appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 5, 2021

We came across a fascinating article on BDSM, meditation, and mindfulness, so we decided to talk about it! In this episode: Cara Dunkley, a clinical psychologist from the Sexual Health Laboratory at the University... The post Mindfulness, Meditation, and BDSM appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Nov 2, 2021

Yes, most of us know to consider the risks of our BDSM fun. Yes, most of us talk about safety or at least think about it on some level. Unfortunately, though, not everyone prepares... The post Minisode 37: Building Your BDSM First Aid Kit appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Oct 29, 2021

There’s a lot that goes into establishing the routine and flow of your power exchange. Mindset. Desires. Limits and boundaries. And yes, habits. To do something different or new, we have to change old... The post Changing Old Habits and Forming New Habits in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Oct 26, 2021

We’re finally back with more minisodes, and we’re comin’ in hot for this one. Let’s talk about anal training! Not every power exchange engages in it and anal isn’t automatically kinky for everyone. But... The post Minisode 36: Anal Training Tips appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Oct 22, 2021

We’ve been recording podcast episodes since 2015, and things have changed a lot in all these years. So we thought it might be interesting to go back to the earliest episodes, before we had... The post Revisiting Episode 1: Anyone Can Be Kinky appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Oct 15, 2021

Why yes, we are doing Q&A episodes on a semi-regular basis. We’re so glad you noticed! This week, we answered questions on “getting a partner to love you” as well as our most memorable... The post BDSM Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Oct 8, 2021

In this week’s episode, we take inspiration from a very vanilla article on the five types of personal boundaries we all need to set. But, of course, we talk about them in terms of... The post Different Types of Personal Boundaries appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Sep 28, 2021

We recently did a longer podcast episode on funishment. For those who want the Tl;dr, here are five tips and things to know about funishment if you’re trying it for the first time. A... The post Minisode 35: Funishment Basics appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Sep 24, 2021

We spend a lot of time talking about what goes wrong in a power exchange relationship and what to watch out for. This week, we’re talking about the good stuff, green flags that indicate... The post Green Flags in Power Exchange Relationships appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Sep 17, 2021

Consider this another experiment. We enjoy doing the BDSM Reddit reactions, but we wondered what it would be like to react to vanilla relationship questions from Reddit. Spoiler alert: there’s no major change in... The post Kinksters React to Vanilla Relationship Reddit appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Sep 14, 2021

In this week’s minisode, we’re discussing a favorite kink of ours: face slapping! If you’re new to it and want to explore with a partner, these are a few quick tips to keep in... The post Minisode 33: Face Slapping appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Sep 7, 2021

A common struggle of many submissives is learning how to ask for what they need and want. It’s especially hard when you believe that a Dominant is always in charge and will decide what’s... The post Minisode 32: Asking Your Dominant for What You Want appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Sep 3, 2021

We’ve mentioned this topic so many times in the past, but we’re finally talking about it: the importance of vulnerability in power exchange. Our definition and view of vulnerability comes from Brene Brown’s talks,... The post Vulnerability and Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Aug 31, 2021

In a new D/s relationship? Feel a bit overwhelmed and not sure what to do or where to begin? Here are a few tips to keep in mind as you navigate this new path... The post Minisode 31: Tips for New D/s Relationships appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Aug 27, 2021

We’ve mentioned funishment many times in the past, but we’ve never devoted an episode to it. And it’s probably a good thing we’re doing this now because Kayla’s views on it have changed over... The post Funishment appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Aug 24, 2021

Curious about orgasm control? Here are a few things you need to know about it first! A massive thanks to our Patreon community for making these shorter episodes possible! Links from the episode: 5... The post Minisode 30: Orgasm Control appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Aug 20, 2021

Yes, the hallmark of power exchange is that the Dom leads (or controls or has power, pick your term) and the submissive follows (or submits or serves). But that won’t always be the right... The post Following a Submissive’s Lead in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Aug 17, 2021

The answer to that question is, as always, it depends. But we’ve received the question before from someone who really liked this vanilla partner but really enjoyed kink, too. Here’s what we think about... The post Minisode 29: Should I Give Up Kink for a Partner? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Aug 13, 2021

This week, we’re talking about love languages again — but instead of the original, we read Speaking from the Heart: 18 Languages for Modern Love by Anne Hodder-Shipp (she/they). We briefly discuss each love... The post Revisiting Love Languages in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Aug 10, 2021

Subfrenzy hits many submissives at some point in your kink life, from new and excited kinksters to experienced subs who think it won’t happen to them. In this week’s mini podcast episode, we’re sharing... The post Minisode 28: Subfrenzy appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Aug 6, 2021

We’ve mentioned exhibitionism and voyeurism as kinks of ours multiple times of the years, but we’re FINALLY giving it a standalone episode. As always, it’s too big of a topic to be fully covered... The post Our Experience with Exhibitionism and Voyeurism appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Aug 3, 2021

What’s the difference between a submissive and a bottom? For some people, not very much. For others, everything. In this week’s minisode, we attempt to differentiate between the two. A massive thanks to our... The post Minisode 27: Submissive vs. Bottom appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jul 30, 2021

We received enough positive feedback from a previous episode where we responded and reacted to questions asked on BDSM subreddits that we thought we’d do it again! This week’s post range from violating safewords... The post Responding to BDSM Reddit Posts appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jul 27, 2021

As we see it, dominance is about three different elements: power, control, and leadership. So that’s the lens we use to define it in this week’s mini-episode! A massive thanks to our Patreon community... The post Minisode 26: What is Dominance? appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jul 23, 2021

This week, we answered BDSM questions kinksters asked on Instagram (at that handle I hate) and on YouTube. The topics were wide-ranging, and there’s even a rant at the end. Enjoy! In this episode:... The post BDSM Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jul 20, 2021

In this week’s mini podcast episode, we discuss a question we get asked a lot: Do I have to open up my relationship now that we’re kinky? A massive thanks to our Patreon community... The post Minisode 25: Do You Have to Open Up Your Relationship? | BDSM Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jul 16, 2021

We believe dominance is about leadership just as much (if not more) than it’s about power and control. John Brownstone considers himself a servant leader. In this week’s episode, we’re talking about what servant... The post Servant Leadership and Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jul 13, 2021

Call it submissive training or behavior modification (or something else) but trying to change someone’s behavior (yours or a partner’s) isn’t always easy. While a lot of people use discipline and punishment, it’s not... The post Minisode 24: 3 Positive Reinforcement Methods appeared first on Loving BDSM .

Jul 9, 2021

Can anyone else believe we reached episode 273 before devoting an entire episode to impact play?! Neither can we! But here we are! Warning, this is a loooong episode because even with an attempt... The post What is Impact Play appeared first on Loving BDSM .